Have you seen all the great YouTube videos providing solutions to the Oil Crisis in the Gulf? Let us take on this same challenge with addressing sexual assault and ending sexual violence.
For every person who provides a true YouTube solution to sexual assault (not a parody or a joke) and shares it with us here at The Date Safe Project Inc, we will put your name (and/or your organization’s name) into a monthly drawing for your choice of the following:
50 “Do You Ask?” POSTERS (you pick how many of each of the 12 posters you want). Preview the fun and educational posters here.
800 “Can I Kiss You?” Temporary Tattoos. Preview the fun and educational posters here.
25 “May I Kiss You?” Books. Preview the critically acclaimed book here.
25 “Voices of Courage” Books. Preview the book and CDs utilized around the world here.
10 “HELP! My Teen Is Dating” DVD/book sets. Preview the award-winning program here.
10 T-shirts: “Can I Kiss You?” (on the front)/ “Do You Ask? Take a Moment to Care” (on the back). Preview shirts here.
10 T-shirts: “Want Some Action?” (on the front) / “Take the Pledge 4 Action” (on the back with 4 guidelines). Preview shirts here.
The GUIDELINES:
Submit your video to YouTube and then share with us the YouTube address for your video in our “COMMENTS” section of this post. Lastly, visit the CONTACT US page on this website to send us your contact information and which submission is yours (all contact information is kept confidential until you give permission to share such information). Another option is to send your video on a DVD and will post the video for you (mail to: The Date Safe Project Inc, c/o YouTube Solutions, PO Box 20906, Greenfield, WI 53220-0906). All appropriate videos (must be standards of a PG / PG-13 movie rating) will be entered into each week’s drawing.
Once a week, you will have a chance to WIN your choice of ONE of the prizes listed above. The sooner you submit a video, the sooner you have a chance to win. Each week’s submissions are ADDED to all the previous submissions.
Example: If you submit a video on June 30th, you will be in the drawing EACH MONTH for the rest of the time this YouTube Challenge is running.
SUBMIT TODAY!!
The book entitled “May I Kiss you” is one that seems so controversial to me because I am a man living outside the USA in Quebec, Canada. Quebec is basically a French language province where people of BOTH genders are excessively at ease with kisssing each other as just forms of welcome…..even to those they hardly know. Being a man, who as a kid, was told that if I kissed a woman, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, she would have the right to smack me across the face. So I never was much into kissing, apart from a girlfriend I might have occasionally. Being kissed by these women defined above is a very uncomfortable situation because I don’t know the rules of kissing as they do among themselves. So much for egalitarianism and all the more as the book in question puts the onus on the guys. What help is there for me when women I hardly know want to make physical contact with my body through kissing which makes me so uncomfortable? Do I not have the same rights to my body that women have with theirs? The right to not engage in, what for me, is an uncomfortable form of a geussing game which does not make me feel good at all? I understand why the onus of the book is on the guys. But do guys not have the same rights as women in this area of what forms of contact women are allowed to make with our/my body? If so how is this to be enforced?
Douglas, when you read the book May I Kiss You?, you will discover the book does not put the “onus on the man.” Throughout the book, the responsibility to receive consent is on the PERSON who initiates the sexual contact – regardless of gender. All genders have the right to have their body and their boundaries respected at all times. The book definitely discusses options for handling unwanted advances or intimacy.
This was the best sexual assault program I’ve seen and as a resident adviser in a dorm, I really appreciate that. I truly believe that a great deal of information is available for people and even if they don’t take any of it seriously, the knowledge is still right in front of them. So hopefully when they are confronted with a situation, they know the resources are available. That being said, I think there needs to be more male involvement in the prevention of sexual assault. I understand that most support programs don’t want males to have anything to do their operation, simply because it could offend or deter some women who seek support. However, that shouldn’t mean that men get thrown out of the loop. I believe a strong peer to peer program among men could emphasize prevention. If 1 in 6 women will be sexually assaulted throughout their lives, does that mean that 1 in 6 men is a rapist, or is it just a few doing it without consequence. If more men were involved and taken seriously in sexual assault prevention programs and encouraged in a program of their own to discuss sexual assault with each other maybe we could illuminate some of the ignorance and gender bias behavior.
Thank you for all the things you have done for me, and for so many people.
Trenton Hatch
Thank you, Trenton, for your kind words about the “Can I Kiss You?” presentation.
I agree with you 100% that we need more men engaged on these issues and helping to solve them, especially since men commit the far majority of sexual assaults. Nowadays, many organizations do encourage and support men to get involved. In fact, you have national organizations for working directly with men on ending violence such as Men Can Stop Rape at http://www.MenCanStopRape.org.
I am honored to hear you share how much the “Can I Kiss You?” program impacted you. Trenton, you are a great example of a male being engaged through an interactive approach. Often when schools and communities bring me to speak, they have present a session on Utilizing Interaction when Discussing Consent, Bystander Intervention, and Sexual Assault. The more we teach people precisely HOW TO ENGAGE, the more likely we are to get individuals passionately involved and taking action.