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I know this is the questions for Mike section, and I'm not Mike, so I hope you don't take offense.

As a survivor I can relate to how your friend feels. After I was raped I refused to acknowledge what had happened.  In fact I continued my relationship with my rapist.  Even though I knew that what he had done to me was wrong, I was still emotionally attached to him and I couldn't break that bond.   In my case, it was because he was the only grown up who would pay attention to me and I craved that attention.   It's a difficult phenomenon to understand from any perspective, but it isn't uncommon.

I'd encourage you to continue to love your friend, support her in any way that you can, acknowledge that she likely has some pretty confused feelings right now, and give her time. I would agree that getting back together with that boy in a relationship is unwise, but she might not be at that point yet.