60 Minutes on Campus Sexual Assaults

Below is an important notice.  Please watch 60 Minutes on CBS this Sunday:

Dear Friends,

Please tune into CBS 60 Minutes on Sunday, April 17th, 6 p.m. This Sunday, 60 Minutes will feature a story on Sexual Assaults on college campuses and includes an interview with the Women’s Center of San Joaquin, a rape crisis center in Northern California.

The Segment focuses on two rapes that took place at the University of the Pacific. The piece highlights the flaws in college campus sexual misconduct policies and the need for reform of these policies nationwide.

We have all been waiting with great anticipation for this segment to air and again want to stress our hope that this piece brings a heightened awareness to the serious and prevalent problem of sexual assaults on college campuses across the country and initiates effective change so that rape victims are encouraged to report and better supported during this traumatic experience.

We hope that you tune in this Sunday and continue to work with rape crisis advocates to end sexual violence in our country.

Sincerely,

Joelle Gomez

Executive Director
Women’s Center of San Joaquin County
620 N. San Joaquin Street
Stockton, CA 95202

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REACTION to “Law & Order: SVU” titled “Grey”

This post is a reaction to tonight’s episode of “Law & Order: SVU”  based on a college campus (further down on our blog page is the original post about the episode which we posted BEFORE the show aired).  Now, is the time to react to the actual episode where several concerns arose.

Please be aware I will be referring to some stereotypes which played out on the show concerning sexual assaults and thus I want to give full disclosure before anyone chooses to read on.

Consider all of the following in tonight’s episode:

1) The show had a person who is obliged to keep a student’s comments confidential BREAK the confidentiality and tell the police information [in the show tonight, the police detective is informed his daughter was the "Buddy" in the "Buddy System"]. This scene is MANY survivor’s nightmare and could deter other survivors from speaking with people on campus who are “Safe” to share with (must keep information confidential).

2) A campus professional referred to the “Buddy System” as a way to protect you (seem to imply females) when you  make dumb or stupid mistakes (paraphrasing).  A simple statement like “The Buddy System is to help students look out for each other when they see potentially dangerous situations” would have been much more effective and less potentially aimed at referring to women’s mistakes in these cases.  The fact is wording such as “dumb or stupid mistakes” is often used against survivors as victim blaming.

3) The District Attorney was the ONLY person who used the term “Grey Rape” and did it in a way that would concern many sexual assault advocates.  The DA implied: “He Said. She Said. results in Grey Rape and not having a case” (paraphrase).  Once again, students and/or survivors watching the show could become very concerned no one would take their case seriously if they came forward.

4) The campus in this episode hides all sexual assaults as other crimes to avoid the Clery Act.  If what was occurring in the show was taking place, federal crime was being violated. The campus wasn’t “avoiding” the Clery Act.  They were violating it.

5) The other detectives in the Police Station made almost the EXACT comments I said in my previous video (blog post below) for showing examples of how people blame survivors.  No, I had not seen the show beforehand.  That coincidence proves how often the same “victim blaming” is used throughout society.  In this case, it could have made survivors think that is how police will look at their case and thus hurt the chances of survivors coming forward.

6) No one ever referenced a local sexual assault crisis center and talking with an advocate (another option in addition to talking with the school and/or the authorities).  Sexual assault advocates can make a tremendous, positive impact for survivors.  Many campuses will encourage the survivor to speak with an advocate from a local crisis center.  Unfortunately, not all campuses do this and so the show may be fair in projecting that situation.

7) Then the show switched to a completely different discussion (homicide through abortion) and NEVER came back to resolve all the issues it arose in the first 15 minutes – such as all the issues around campus reporting, campus judiciary systems, sexual assaults on campus involving alcohol, confidentiality, etc…   A wound was open and never closed back up.

Yes, I understand this is a TV show. Why all the attention?  Because this cast (2 of the co-stars) spoke out in advance of this show as if this episode was going to be progressive in helping survivors.  While I absolutely appreciate the media working to make a positive difference, I wish the Producers and Writers would have had someone on set to help them truly create an equally effective drama which would have provided great opportunity for increasing viewer’s awareness.

This show brought up so many different issues with regards to the opening sexual assault case that they easily could have made the entire episode about the first sexual assault case discussed on the broadcast.

What did you think?  SHARE YOUR COMMENTS BELOW.  I look forward to personally responding to everyone’s comments as the day progresses. I am speaking in Richmond, VA, and so will do my best to respond when possible.

NBC’s Law & Order “SVU” and Grey Rape Discussion

NOW THAT THE SHOW HAS AIRED, SEE THE LATEST REACTION by CLICKING HERE)!!

The following blog post was written BEFORE the show aired on NBC.

Today’s Moment video discusses an upcoming NBC episode of “Law & Order: SVU” titled “Grey.”  The term “grey rape” results in misconceptions on the role of alcohol in a sexual assault.  In the episode on NBC with co-stars Christine Lahti and Mariska Hargitay, the case involves a college campus and students drinking.

WARNING:  I mistakenly refer to “SUV” when the show is “Law & Order: SVU.”

Watch “Today’s Moment” below and share YOUR THOUGHTS. I will personally respond to each comment.

P.S. Remember to share your thoughts by leaving a comment below. I look forward to responding to everyone’s comments!

University of Alabama Rolls w/ Tide of Change by “Asking First”

Tonight, the sorority sisters at the University of Alabama made a commitment to Asking First, Being a Friend, and Opening a Door.  They were a passionate group of students who shared their viewpoints and made a verbal agreement to make a difference on their campus.  While we had 2 shows (one at 6pm and one at 8pm), each group agreed with the changes that need to occur.

The campus has a close relationship between Greek Life and the Women’s Resource Center (not a relationship you see at every campus).  The staff of the Women’s Resource Center was out in full support of the program tonight.  Getting to meet all of these passionate individuals and the head of the BACCHUS GAMMA group on campus (in addition to being the head of Peer Education) was greatly appreciated.

Watch their high energy and fun video below.

Sexual assault, alcohol & supporting survivors @ Wake Forest

WOW!  Wake Forest University knows how to promote an educational event addressing sexual assault, intimacy, dating, and alcohol.  Better yet, they know how to get RESULTS!  Last night, over 1100 students (over 25% of their student body) attended the “Can I Kiss You?” program in Wait Chapel.  The team on campus who was responsible for bringing me to speak was a DYNAMITE combination of talent, expertise, and passion.  They worked diligently with several organizations and groups (Athletics, Greek Life, and the Student Center — all which showed up in big numbers).

As you scroll down through this blog posting, you will see video footage from the event.  Join the Wake Forest students in making a commitment by signing the “Pledge for Action” here.

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Imagine being on a team with students from around the country sharing their insights and feedback regarding decisions The Date Safe Project, Inc. makes throughout the year.  As a Date Safe Project (DSP) Student Advisory Board member, you are a part of  the strategic thinking for what content, educational resources, services, and products The Date Safe Project, Inc. chooses to provide to the following people:

  1. Website visitors,
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  3. Educational institutions,
  4. Students,
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While sharing with student leaders from around the country, you will also communicate directly with Mike Domitrz and the entire team at The Date Safe Project, Inc..  Being on the DSP Student Advisory Board is a one-of-a-kind opportunity for students, especially for individuals who appreciate having a real voice in decision-making.  Each term lasts one month and can be extended based on the performance of that SAB member.

You will have the opportunity to write Entertainment Reviews, Op-Eds on Current News, updates from your own campus, and articles discussing important issues The Date Safe Project, Inc. addresses.

To APPLY for this opportunity to serve on  the DSP Student Advisory Board, e-mail nominate@DateSafeProject.org with the following information:

  1. Your Full Name
  2. E-mail and phone number (this will be kept confidential – we must confirm with each person).
  3. Your School Name and Full Address
  4. 3 References from YOUR School or a recent school you attended (include the reference’s e-mail address and phone number).
  5. WHY you want to serve on the DSP Student Advisory Board.
  6. Describe what you will bring to the role.
  7. Your past successes and involvements in life (school, activism, sports, etc…).

Since the 2010-2011 school year is getting started, APPLY NOW! Send everything requested above to nominate@DateSafeProject.org.

Student of Impact

Throughout the school year, selected students will be featured here at The Date Safe Project, Inc. as the “Student of Impact.”  Students are nominated by their peers, educators, professionals, and can nominate themselves.  The “Student of Impact” represents some and/or all of the below criteria:

  • Has had success running and/or coordinating an educational campaign at school addressing intimacy, relationships, dating, and/or sexual assault awareness.
  • Helps peers and others at school and/or in the community in ending sexual violence.
  • Inspires fellow students to make an impact on the issues addressed here at The Date Safe Project, Inc.

The first “Student of Impact” will be recognized on Friday, August 28th.  You will find their story and a picture of the individual here on the website.

NOMINATE someone today.  Students will be recognized throughout the year and so it is never too late to nominate a person.  To nominate an individual, send an e-mail to nominate@datesafeproject.org.  In the e-mail Subject line, type “Student of Impact” and include the following information inside the e-mail:

  1. Name of Nominee
  2. School of Nominee and Year in School
  3. E-mail address AND phone number of Nominee (will be kept confidential.  We must contact the nominee for approval to give them the recognition on the website).
  4. WHY you feel this person deserves the recognition (must be at least 50 words in length).
  5. YOUR NAME and contact information (e-mail and phone number).
  6. Your affiliation with this individual.

The recipient of the “Student of Impact” will receive a certificate and an e-book of their choice from The Date Safe Project, Inc..  The recognition may be used in all personal and professional manners (resumes, vitae, awards, scholarships, etc…).

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