While this short documentary does not acknowledge many of the characters its relying on are the “Bad Guys” in the film, the analysis does hold true for the “Good Guys” too. Think of how good looking by magazine standards all the “Good Guy” characters are in Disney Films (true of female characters also). Even after the Beast returns to being human in “Beauty in the Beast,” he remains a strong male with the physique described in the documentary above .

Does such imagery affect consent and respect?  If you grow up thinking its the “Man’s Job” to take control, are you likely to “Ask First” and give your partner a choice?  Share your thoughts below.

G3nerations.org is a powerful website helping reveal how many minors are being sexually assaulted in the UNITED STATES by being trafficked in the sex industry.  Please watch the video trailer at www.G3nerations.org by clicking here. You will realize this problem is not just an international issue – as often portrayed.  We need a plan in our country to protect these minors and get them OUT of the horrific system they are enslaved to.

Leave your COMMENTS below.  Share your thoughts and ideas for making a difference! Spread the word by telling others about this horrible problem!

LOTS of input is what we are looking for – from both MALES and FEMALES, especially between the ages of 17 years old and 23  years old.  Invite family, friends, colleagues, and neighbors to VOTE and get their chance to WIN!!  Use FaceBook, email, and Twitter to invite people. Here is the website to send them to:  http://www.datesafeproject.org/2010/vote-for-favorite-want-some-action-shirts/

For the “Can I Kiss You?” shirt, we needed more votes from males and so please encourage males to participate.  As a reward for helping, we are going to give out a bunch of free shirts by drawing the names of participants!

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The key wording is you have to like the shirt sooo much you want to buy it for yourself and wear it!   Remember you are not buying anything. You are simply sharing your opinion. The key feedback is what shirt do you like soo much that you would pay to get it more than the other shirts.

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In this video, you are watching over 600 students at 8am in a School Assembly of the “Can I Kiss You?“ program engaged, thinking, opening their minds, and making decisions to change their actions.

Bring the “Can I Kiss You?” program to your community and witness your students talking nonstop about the positive changes they WANT to make. You’ll hear them saying how much the presentation “blew their mind” and “really has me thinking about how I need to change the way I date.“

SPECIAL OFFER: By calling 800-329-9390 today, you will receive a complimentary copy of the critically-acclaimed book “May I Kiss You?” by Mike Domitrz.  Schools throughout the country use this book as curriculum in the classroom and for creating positive change with their students.  Click here to send us an email.

INSURING A GREAT ASSEMBLY FOR YOUR SCHOOL:

One of the biggest fears many middle schools and high schools have is “How can we know this speaker is going to capture our students attention AND do so appropriately while giving them needed tools for making a difference?”  The answer is:  You need an expert with a proven track record of excellence with schools of all sizes, demographics, and cultures.  You require a quick thinking professional who is gifted at reacting specifically to your students’ reactions and comments.

“Your presentation to the two junior highs: 500 and 440 teens, were outstanding.  These teens were rowdy audiences, but you handled them expertly, got and held their attention and really made an impact.  Even the School Principals who are somewhat conservative were very impressed.“
Anne Smith, RN, BSN, Yuma County Public Health Services District (AZ)

For over 2 decades, Mike Domitrz has been inspiring students, educators and parents with the unique combination of his hilarious sense of humor along with his uncanny ability to draw hard-hitting emotion from audiences.  School districts constantly share what a lasting impact he has with people of all ages.

“It has been 3 months since you presented your ‘Can I Kiss You?‘ Program to high school students, and separately to parents, in our communities of Lake Forest and Lake Bluff, Illinois.  To my surprise, and immense satisifaction, people are still talking about it!

…three students at a local coffee shop were overheard recently, two full months after your visit, discussing the idea of ‘asking’ that had been presented by ‘that dude we heard at school in the Fall.“
Lydia Backer, Program Director, LEAD (IL)

With Mike, you get a critically-acclaimed author and passionate educator on healthy dating, consent, bystander intervention, and supporting survivors who is leading the way by constantly changing and further improving each presentation he gives.  You get a professional presenter who studies exactly how each audience member reacts to different techniques and learning styles.  You get a dedicated advocate who commits to always respecting every aspect of a very sensitive topic.

“Mike Domitrz brought his powerful presentation to Mahnomen, Wauban and Circle of Life Schoos on the White Earth Ojibwe Nation and to an Alternative Learning Center near the reservation reaching 870 students…His method of not putting words into their mouths but instead using their words and language was absolutely incredible…

It is important to recognize that never before has there been a National Speaker who has ever promised our youth that he would respond to their emails within 24 hours. His commitment to make effective changes in the lives of our youth is to be commended.”
Lisa Brunner, Executive Director, Community Resource Alliance Tribal Alliance (MN)

To be an effective and powerful educator, you need to always be learning new approaches and concepts of working with people of all ages (students, staff, and parents).  Yes, the educator needs to be a STUDENT.  The #1 source for teaching better speaking techniques and presentation skills is the National Speakers Association (NSA) – the professional trade organization for speakers around the world.

Mike Domitrz is an active and involved member of NSA.  In fact, he is one of the few Certified Speaker Professionals (CSP) across the globe specifically working in Education.  Each year, the National Speakers Association gives this earned recognition to those speakers who accomplish all of the following criteria:

• At least 50 speaking events each year for 5 consecutive years.
• A score of at least 7.5 on evaluations from clients over the past 5 years (on a 10 point scale).
• Minimum level of professional credits earned by attending NSA Educational Events (shows commitment to the craft of working with audiences and making a difference).

What does Mike being a Certified Speaking Professional mean to you?  You are getting a leading authority, author and ally who is also one of the top speaking professionals in the world.

“Mike understands not only his message but the interests and needs of the audiences he serves. He has a very energetic and entertaining style that engages all audiences. His message is powerful and the people in his audience naturally gravitate to him.”  Sam Silverstein, former President of the National Speakers Association.

Best of all, you are working with a devoted professional who CARES about you, your organization, your community, and each person in the audience.  Individuals and organizations who have brought Mike to speak are continually telling us here at The Date Safe Project how wonderful he is to bring to their schools.

“He made my job very easy. He answered my numerous inquiries promptly, respected and honored our requests regarding his presentations and took the time to get know our audience before he arrived.”
Jayne Giroux, Making Good Choices Council, Bradenton (FL)

SCHEDULING MIKE TO SPEAK. Due the long lasting impact Mike’s program has on communities, his available dates tend to quickly be taken each year.  How can you insure a date is held for you?

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SPECIAL OFFER: By calling 800-329-9390 today, you will receive a complimentary copy of the critically-acclaimed book “May I Kiss You?” by Mike Domitrz.  Schools throughout the country use this book as curriculum in the classroom and for creating positive change with their students.

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“All I can say is WOW!!  I attended one of his sessions for the Peer-Ed people and his “Can I Kiss You?” program too and both were amazing. I truly enjoyed everything…and everything he had to say was so true. Guys and Girls all have a lot to learn about communication, and this is a great way to get people started talking. Along with this, I thought his approach to talking about sexual assault was very enlightening, and I have pledged to support survivors. The whole program really makes you think, about everything you’ve done or haven’t done in a relationship. So I just want to say THANK YOU MIKE!  For sharing your time with us, sharing your message, and hopefully opening the eyes of those around you.”
– Mary, a student from Hastings College

“I tried asking and it was amazingly easier to do.   I would definitely ask again because it was like a load was lifted off my shoulders — the guessing game of ‘Do you really like me?’ was gone.  I was asked the day after the presentation at my school. I actually told him I’d have to think about it, and the next day I said yes. I’ve been dating him for over a month now, and I’m amazed that he asks before everything. And I can’t be more appreciative.”
– Nicole, a student from Christopher Newport University

“I attended your seminar at Iowa State University in April. At the time, I was only in town for orientation, and the catchy title of your seminar got my attention. I went with my best friend who had been a victim of sexual assault, and afterward I was finally able to respond to her better, and she was able to express herself more clearly and realize it wasn’t her fault. The incident had happened over a year ago and now the healing can finally begin. Thank you for your passion and dedication – I know we weren’t the only ones who were affected.”
– Stephanie, a student from Iowa State University

“I know you won’t remember me. But I will never forget your words and your compassion!!”
– A student from a campus in NY

“I have used the ‘asking first‘ approach with my boyfriend and he has used it with me. It has really helped us to have great communication with each other, and we have a very healthy and happy relationship.  Asking helps to make the relationship more open and comfortable. If you ask first or are asked there is a lot more trust in the relationship and the trust is maintained far more easily.  I want to thank you so much. Your program has helped me to move forward past some issues I have had with men and relationships. I am now in a very happy relationship with my boyfriend who also attended your program. On our second date he used the ‘asking first” approach. It really does work, and it is so wonderful for our relationship. Again I want to thank you so much for your program ‘Can I Kiss You?‘.”
– A student from the University of Dayton in OH

“There was a guy on campus to ask me out and it was just after your talk so the words were fresh in my head (the poster hangs on my dorm door) so at the end of the date I asked him if I could kiss him. He seemed surprised that I would ask, but because of that we’ve become closer. We respect each other and that has become the bases for our relationship, not physical pleasure.   My mum was a victim of rape and has been very worried about the same thing happening to me. I never really got it until after I heard your talk. It really made me realize things that we take for granted. I hadn’t wanted to go when I heard the title of your talk, but I will never regret going to hear you speak. Your words changed my life and how I view myself and my mum. Thank you.”
– A student from Barton College in NC

“I have always been that girl who had a boyfriend, but I am currently in one of the most successful relationships I’ve ever had. We’ve been dating for a really long time and haven’t lost that spark—and we’re doing the long distance thing. One thing that my boyfriend does that no one else has done is ask to do things when we’re being intimate. Even after dating for several months (approaching a year) he still asks if, and how, he can please me. He *always* asks, adding that he wants to do exactly what I want. It makes it my choice. It’s so attractive and sexy that it’s impossible to say no, but I know that if I didn’t want to do something, I could tell him. Knowing that makes our relationship so much stronger. I just wanted to reiterate your point–asking can be really sexy, and doesn’t have to ruin the moment at all. In fact, it can make the moment more amazing than it already was! Thanks for coming to our school and letting everyone know how good asking can be! (and feel free to share this story with other people!)”
– Leslie, a student from Bucknell in Pennsylvania

“In the fall of 2003, you visited Luther College to give your presentation, which as a first year student I was strongly urged to attend. At the time, I thought the ‘Can I kiss you?’ idea made sense, but that it wasn’t necessarily practical. Either way, I wasn’t in a situation where a romantic relationship was a possibility, so I put it to the back of my mind and didn’t really think about it.

This summer, I met a guy who was interested in me. We decided to get together, and one night we were cuddling on a bench. I could tell that he wanted to kiss me, and I realized that I wasn’t ready for it, but I didn’t have the courage to flat-out refuse him. He wasn’t picking up on my nonverbal signals, and I was starting to get really uncomfortable. Finally, unable to think of anything else to do, I started telling him about your program. About how you’d shown us how nonverbal signals rarely work, and the importance of asking first. Wonder of wonders, he got it! He asked if he could kiss me, and I was able to tell him no (I was still nervous/embarrassed by it, but it was manageable).

That by itself is perhaps a small thing, but I think that it shaped the way the physical parts of our relationship went from that point on. He always asked before we did anything that might make me uncomfortable, and I was always comfortable with telling him to stop if I needed to. I really think that having seen your program and sharing that with him helped to make ours into a healthier relationship. So thank you, Mike, for everything you do. It really does make a difference!”
– Gretchen, a student from Luther College in Iowa

“I know several rape or sexual assault survivors. I don’t know why I know so many but knowing them makes my life a better life. I would never go back and say I wish I hadn’t met any of them. To support them when they are nervous or just need a reassurance is magical. It’s hard to get used to the fact that someone you truly love has been raped, you are angry and frustrated. However, being calm and just a listener is all a survivor needs most of the time, and the bond that has grown between some of my friends and I will never be broken. The things Mike said were useful to anyone. It’s true that all you have to say is “Thank you for telling me, That means a lot. I want you to know that if you need me for anything, I will always support you.” That may very well be one of the most influential statements that can be made. Thanks again, Mike!”
– Gary, a student from Bucknell in Pennsylvania

“My sister and I were both raped in the past year. She was assaulted on a Friday and by Monday, I had heard things about it around our high school. I also knew because I had acted the same way after being assaulted. I opened the door and told her that if something happened, she could tell me and I would listen. She told us what happened that night. At the police station they asked her if she said no. I agree that they should ask if he asked. It was great that Mike brought light to that situation (in the “Can I Kiss You?” program).  Society does seem to focus on what the survivor does and as a survivor, I know the difference. Thank you again!!!  IT (the ‘Can I Kiss You?’ program) WAS AMAZING!!”
– A student at St. Cloud State University in MN

“A couple weeks ago, you spoke here at Gettysburg College. Just 2 days later, I accompanied a female friend of mine to her former boyfriend’s (who had raped her) house where she confronted and said goodbye to him. She had been afraid to do so for 7 months, and she said that it was my simple supportive accompaniment that enabled her to at long last do it. So your presentation was absolutely correct, in that the thing a survivor of sexual assault needs most is just to know that people support her (or so it seems from my experience). Thus I desired to thank you for your presentation here, and I hope that other people can benefit also from it–whether they are the survivor, or the supportive friend as I was.”
– Joe, a student from Gettysburg College in PA

“Hi Mike, I am an athlete on our campus who attended your seminar on Wednesday.  I just wanted to let you know how much you put things into perspective.  It had never really occurred to me that the simple action of asking for permission could really be that powerful.  I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, and we always used to joke about how me met and how the first time we ever kissed he asked me if he could.  I would always laugh and say how cute it was, and of course all of his buddies would make fun of him and call him feminine names.  But after listening to what you had to say, I realized that my boyfriend never really stopped asking me for my permission, even after being with me for so long.  He truly respects me and my body, and for the first time, I am recognizing it.  Nothing ever flagged my brain when he would say something that asked for my consent, so I never really noticed the fact that he wasn’t just doing things because HE felt like it.  He wanted to make sure it was something both of us wanted.  So basically, I just wanted to thank you for opening my eyes to what I have been oblivious to! I really hope your message touches everyone who hears you because I know there are good people out there who can make a difference.  Thank you so much for your stories! You truly have a good heart!”
– Student at CSU at Sacramento

“The day after seeing this program, I ran into a friend of mine who had also been at the presentation as well. Jokingly, I said to him, “Can I kiss you?” At this point, I should mention that Fred is INCREDIBLY gay, and that I am a female. And he said, “Okay!” So, completely randomly, Fred and I shared a kiss, right there, in the middle of the English department building. It was completely unexpected and beautiful and it’ll probably never happen again. . . it absolutely made my day.“
– Mariah, a student at Skidmore College

“My boyfriend asked me if he could kiss me on our first date, and I thought it was sweet, mature and above all, respectful. We’ve been together for 6 months, and I think there is a definite possibility that he is the man i might marry. And I will always remember our first kiss being perfect. I think asking is a great way to begin an open and honest relationship.”
– Jess, a student at University of Delaware

“My boyfriend and I are both Greeks on our campus.  The first time he went to kiss me, he pulled back. I was a little disappointed because I really wanted to kiss him too, but then he looked me straight in the eyes, and asked if he could kiss me. It melted my heart. When it’s truly sincere, that first kiss means so much more. So I just wanted to let all those disbelievers out there know, that it really does work.  If a guy were to ask me to kiss him, it would mean so much more and I would have so much more respect for that person, especially now that I’ve attended your seminar. I’ve never tried the asking first, because I was one of those girls who used to believe that ‘it’s the man’s job,’ but now I’ve realized that it’s my body.“
– Meredith at Eastern Washington University

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When you bring Mike Domitrz and the “Can I Kiss You?” program to your college or university, you get multiple presentations (time permitting).  Have Mike present a keynote speech or convocation for the entire campus AND have Mike conduct his customized “Train the Trainers” sessions and presentations for select audiences (Residence Life, Peer Educators, Athletes, Greek Life, Student Government, Staff & Administration, and others).

In Train the Trainers with Mike Domitrz, you will discover a refreshing and powerful format to teaching leaders how to facilitate thought-provoking conversations, programs, and presentations on peer education, healthy intimacy, and/or sexual assault. A welcoming and positive atmosphere is fostered where each trainee discovers how to take a simple approach to tough questions from college students.

Throughout this customized workshop, you will discover how to handle difficult situations with male and female students – including how to discuss “both sides” of students’ concerns. You will learn the secret to creating a balance of careful and effective use of humor verses hard-hitting questions. Attendees will be challenged as to “how far” you should go to intervene in the day-to-day situations that can occur.

Throughout the seminar, everyone is encouraged to ask questions and debate the concepts being discussed. At the end of this incredibly interactive 45 minute session, your leaders will leave excited and equipped with the tools to make a powerful impact on your campus and in your community.  Each person will be excited to speak out using their own new found approach to presenting difficult subject matter.

Which leaders on campus should you include for this special opportunity?  Everyone!  Staff, faculty, administrators, student leaders, peer educators, student government, Residence Life, and many more.  Remember you get up to 2 “Train the Trainer” sessions included.  Have one session for staff and faculty and then immediately follow with another session just for a specific group of student leaders.  You choose.

Plus, your campus can receive Mike Domitrz’s May I Kiss You? book for everyone at the session for the incredibly low price of only $8 per book (when 100 books or more are ordered). Students and leaders can utilize the over 20 interactive exercises found throughout this critically-acclaimed book. Mike Domitrz is the only expert who gives campuses such an amazing package of programs, expertise, and educational resources!!

Bring the “Can I Kiss You?” Program to your community. Call now to receive a special 20 page informational magazine and to find the best remaining dates available. Toll Free 800-329-9390 or click here to email us.

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Regardless of where you are located geographically, send a note to their Principals and give them a big Kudos for being role models to others.  Here are the 3 e-mail addresses:

lovela@lodi.k12.wi.us
exok@portage.k12.wi.us
ckunau@sdwd.k12.wi.us

Share your thoughts and encourage more students to follow these ideas by leaving your comments in the “Leave a Reply” box below.

The Girl Scouts is an organization whose main goal is empowering young females. Nothing proved that more than the event that took place in Westminster, Colorado. The Girl Scouts teamed up with the American Bar Association to work side by side with lawyers and other legal professionals to learn about the law as it applies to violence and to learn safety and prevention tips.

The Girl Scouts and The American Bar Association have created a partnership to introduce a national pilot plan called "Take Charge! Violence Prevention, Conflict Resolution and Law."  To read more, click here.

Now that’s empowerment!

In the military, SARC stands for "Sexual Assault Response Coordinator" and is a position designated to address the many issues surrounding sexual assault.  When I have been brought onto a military base, it has always been by the SARC contact (or someone from that office).  These professionals are passionate individuals who fully understand the need for this content to be given for all levels of the military.  Due to timing and other restrictions, we are not able to talk with every single person and so each base must choose which of their members will attend.

As to the "What is it like speaking to the military" question people love to ask me, the answer is simple — it is FANTASTIC!!  Why wouldn’t it be?  Typically, the audience is 18 – 24 years old (almost exactly the same as a college audience).  They are in the "dating world" or married.  Consequenlty, they see and/or experience all the problems and struggles that exist in relationships and intimacy.  Plus, they enter the program with a positive attitude of wanting to be entertained and challenged — all while displaying respect for you as a presenter.  The e-mails and comments we receive from the attendees afterwards prove how attentive of an audience they are AND how much they wanted the material.

Every time I get to speak to our military, I am honored!!  As I told the men and women on Monday, "My work depends on me being able to speak freely and being able to challenge society’s norms.  I am forever grateful for your willingness to fight for those freedoms!!!"