Students & Their Teachers are CHEERING

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Do you want a speaker, author, and expert who is going to have your students rolling in the aisles from laughter and then just minutes later have everyone completely mesmerized in silence as he shares the personal story of his sister’s rape?

As a leading authority on consent, healthy dating, and sexual assault awareness, Mike Domitrz understands that students want to be entertained and that schools want an expert who will make a positive and long lasting difference in the lives of their students. Everyone in a school assembly program wants a compelling and powerful presentation that each person can relate to in a meaningful manner. For this reason, Mike takes you and your students on a journey from hilarious laughter to hard-hitting questions. Then, he provides the answers every student will immediately want to use in his or her own life.

From 6th grade through Seniors in High School, males and females from all cultures, backgrounds, sexual orientations, and diverse populations appreciate Mike’s sincerity and honesty. While he presents one of the “cleanest” programs in schools today, he holds nothing back.

Through his role-playing with audience members and his portrayal of intriguing characters on stage, Mike turns what is often labeled as a “silent” issue into an engaging and thought-provoking event for you and your students. While most people simply “make their move” on a date, you’ll discover how and why “asking first” makes all the difference! Students are given the precise words and skills to insure both partner’s boundaries are respected at all times. Plus, you and your students discover how to appropriately intervene in potentially dangerous situations, including with their friends (alcohol, parties, etc…). In addition, everyone learns how to “Open the Door” to properly support all survivors of sexual assault. Through it all, each person gains a greater level of admiration and respect for survivors of sexual assault.

Throughout your event, Mike will reveal a new and fun approach towards respect that will change each student’s outlook on dating and intimacy. When your students leave the “Can I Kiss You?” program with Mike Domitrz, they will be telling their friends, “Wow! I never thought of that stuff before! I need to completely overhaul my approach to dating and respecting others.“

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Limited Dates are Available.  With his sons in school, Mike limits his travel dates.

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More for You. Please click on the following links for more info on the “Can I Kiss You?:”

About	Watch the Video	“Train the Trainer”
Student Feedback	Reserve a Date	Downloads

Film, TV, & Music Reviews with a Twist

Every week, new films and songs are released around the globe.  Throughout the year, TV shows are launched.  24 hours, 7 days a week, you can turn to “Breaking News” on one of the many “news dedicated” cable channels.  With all of these mediums constantly changing, how can you stay up-to-date or know how to hold appropriate conversations with students and/or people in your community about the shows everyone is talking about?  Good news!  Now, you have a source to turn to for fun, thought-provoking, and helpful reviews.

Here, you will find reviews from parents, educators, experts, and teenagers (giving their perspective).  Each review will provide you with an unique perspective relating to how the media and/or entertainment outlet’s production effects society’s views of dating, sex, intimacy, relationships, violence, consent, and sexual assault.  Having these analytic reviews will provide you with great tools to engage the younger and older generations around you with a different outlook the next time they watch and/or listen to the medium you are reading about.

You know how often people of all ages “roll their eyes” when you try to challenge everyday views on a subject.  The reviews provided by DSP Critics (Date Safe Project Critics) will give you more useful and progmatic material to share with others.

Be a Reviewer.  You can be given full credit for your reviews here at The Date Safe Project, Inc. or your reviews can be kept anonymous.  You choose.  Either way, you can create your own following as a DSP Critic.  To send us a review of ANY medium, click on “Leave a Comment” on this page OR send an e-mail to Review@DateSafeProject.org.

High school students take action on intimacy & sexual assault!

Too often, the media and entertainment industry (TV news shows, gossip magazines, & online new sources) focuses so much attention on negative and/or dangerous choices male and female teenagers engage in – that they miss a lot of the positive choices high school students make concerning intimacy, dating, sexual activity, and supporting sexual assault survivors every day in our country.   We were honored to hear our “Can I Kiss You?” program inspired teenage students in Wisconsin at Lodi High School, Portage High School and Wisconsin Dells High School to continue the messages of “Asking First,” “Opening a Door,” and “Being a Friend” throughout their high school careers. They created an “AWARENESS DAY” at their schools and in their communities.  In addition, they are already working on creating ideas for next school year AND concepts to be practiced over this summer which encourage safer and healthier decisions for everyone.  They shared pictures with us of males and females taking active roles in making educational posters addressing consent, respect, boundaries, supporting sexual assault survivors ,and dealing with sexual intimacy in high schools. The posters were being put up around the schools AND in popular community places of business for students to see throughout the summer.  The teenagers told us the poster making was motivated by the “Do You Ask?” posters addressing consent at http://www.DoYouAsk.org

Regardless of where you are located geographically, send a note to their Principals and give them a big Kudos for being role models to others.  Here are the 3 e-mail addresses:

lovela@lodi.k12.wi.us
exok@portage.k12.wi.us
ckunau@sdwd.k12.wi.us

Share your thoughts and encourage more students to follow these ideas by leaving your comments in the “Leave a Reply” box below.

Welcome to 2009 Blog

Welcome to our 2009 Blog.  As you can see, we have included posts from our previous blogs from 2007 – 2008 before we took a break to remodel our online community which is now launching in the summer of 2009.

The Date Safe Project blog is a CONVERSATION and so please engage and SHARE with everyone here by utilizing the “Comments” after each post.  You will find posts for parents, educators, students, and caring individuals & organizations addressing dating, intimacy, decision-making, and sexual assault.  While having fun sharing your thoughts with us, please keep comments positive in tone.  THANKS!

Lets make a difference together,
Mike Domitrz

Summer Dating & Your Teens

Parents, are you ready for the Summer Days of Dating when your teenager has soo much free time?  Here are 4 quick tips:

1) While you may have a great trusting relationship with your teens, still create safety measures for your house (parental settings on cable boxes; have a lock on liquor cabinets; etc…).  While your teen may be responsible, their friends may take some risks in your home.

2) When can friends be over and where in the house are they allowed?  Decide and talk openly about these rules.  Some parents do not allow sons and daughter’s friends in their kids bedrooms to avoid a “private” setting where kissing, touching, or sexual practices could occur.  Other parents say, “Basement door is always left open.”  Clarify.

3) With everyone home from school, how much is texting, IMing, and other technology forms of communicating allowed.  Some students become addicted to “staying in touch with everyone elses life” – so much that they are not LIVING their own life.

4) TALK.  With everyone home more often in the summer and/or spending some vacation time together, TALK unobtrusively about intimacy, equality, and respect.  If a news story breaks about dating, hooking-up, teen pregnancy, or sexual assault, ask your teenager their thoughts and do so in a non-judgmental manner.

What tips do you want to add and share with others?  Use the “Leave a Reply” section below to do so . . .

Mike talking to parents

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Slowing down

Last night as I drove through the Appalacian Moutains, I was taken aback by the beauty, the serenity, the green of the hillsides, and the roll of the individual mountain.  After landing in Dayton, OH this morning, I was driving into the city and noticed a wonderous water fountain to the left of the expressway.  You felt like you were looking at 5 large firehoses shooting up into the air and landing in one spot together in the middle of the river.  As Garrison Keiler was speaking through the car radio on National Public Radio with a repeat broadcast of "A Prairie Home Companion," you felt compelled to just stop.  Take it all in. 

Well I couldn’t stop in the middle of the expressway and so I enjoyed the moment for the second I had it.  As for Garrison, his segment was captivating me.  I hadn’t heard his show in several years. This episode had me with his every word.  Garrison was telling a story about a husband daydreaming in his hammock on a nice summer day.  His dreams went through humorous flashbacks from his life.  I needed to stop and get a bite to eat before I spoke at the University of Dayton.  The only restaurant open was the Starbucks I am in right now.  However, my car radio wouldn’t let me open the car door.  I had to hear the end and I’m glad I did.  The ending of the story had the man admiring his wife as she walked into their home.

"Asking First" creates times in life that make us stop, slow down, and enjoy the moment. When you ‘ask first’, it forces you to pause.  You get to take in every aspect of healthy intimacy without racing.  By asking, you don’t miss out on CREATING an unforgettable moment.  Of course, these are the moments you want to slow down, get right, and enjoy!

New DVD and book combintation for parents of preteens and teenagers on addressing healthy dating, intimacy, respect, sex, and safety — “Help! My Teen is Dating. Real Solutions to Tough Conversations.”

Prom season is about to be in full swing across the country. Having your teenager dating can be a scary at any time of the year, but especially true with the expectations and horror stories we’ve all heard about Prom. How do parents properly prepare their teenagers for the dangers of dating in today’s sexual culture?  How do parents talk with their high school students about dating, intimacy, sex, boundaries, respect, decision-making, alcohol, and safety?

Over the past few years, parents have continuously asked us to create a DVD program they could use in their own homes to talk with their preteens and their teenagers.  From that demand, today we released Help! My Teen is Dating. Real Solutions to Tough Conversations  DVD and book combination.

We have been completely blessed and honored by the incredible reviews coming in from educators, parents, counselors, doctors, and professionals.  One professional actually asked us, "Why doesn’t everyone in the country have this DVD and the books? They are fantastic. Every parent, school, and community needs the lessons and concepts shared in this set. Why hasn’t this been on ‘Oprah’ yet?" Obviously the last portion of that statement provided us a good chuckle.  You can read all the reviews yourself at www.helpmyteenisdating.com.

One of the bonuses we’ve been hearing is how many parents are telling us their teenager ENJOYED watching this DVD with them!!  Plus, two critically-acclaimed books are included along with the DVD: May I Kiss You? and Voices of Courage.