Time Alone for Talking with Your Teenage Son

When is the right time to talk with your teenage son or daughter about important issues?

This week, my wife is up North for the entire week with our 8th grade son at Boy Scout Camp. Yes, she is in living in a tent during a heat wave. Unfortunately, tents do not have air conditioning. The rest of us are hanging out together at home.  We have 4 sons of which 3 are teenagers.  Two of the boys are in high school and two are in middle school.

When I’m not on the road speaking, I’m often working out of my home office. This week, I am home after returning from speaking in the Northern most tip of Greenland last week (literally at the Polar Ice Cap). Two of my sons are at a friend’s house today. Thus, one of my sons and I are home with the house just to the two of us.

What do you do? Do you jump on this opportunity to have in-depth conversations? What do you think I did? Each chance I’ve had to take a break away from my work today, I’ve taken that moment to play my son in Ping Pong. Yes, 2 people hitting a little ball back and forth…with many a funny bounce along the way. We both enjoy the game and the competition. We always end up with at least a few laughs. Plus, we appreciate giving each other a hard time in the best of ways.

We will have many more days ahead for those “other” conversations (as we have in the past). The reality is the conversations we are having today by just hanging out and laughing are equally important. They too come from a foundation of love and caring for each other. Here is to taking 5 minute breaks for HAVING FUN with your son or daughter!

Written by Mike Domitrz on July 19, 2011

Proven Track Record with Children and Parents (Video)

As a parent, you are now probably asking “Before I try engaging in such important conversations with my child, how do I know this information is going to work? Where’s the proof?” In this video, I will share real life results.

You will learn of:  Teenagers who previously didn’t engage with their parents and NOW are openly sharing with Mom and Dad.  I will share specific examples from families where Mom and Dad experienced an “Aha” moment with their daughter.  Getting children to WANT to discuss dating with you as parents is HUGE.

When you finish the video, SHARE with us in the “Speak Your Mind ” section below. I promise to PERSONALLY respond to each person.

~Mike Domitrz
Founder of The Date Safe Project, Inc.

RESULTS of USING STRATEGIES FOR TALKING WITH YOUR TEEN

IMPORTANT REMINDER: Each of the following videos refers to talking with “Teenagers.” Remember if you are a parent of a child younger than 13 years old, the videos give you a fantastic opportunity to prepare your child at an even younger age.

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Written by Mike Domitrz on February 26, 2011

True Support for Your Students

Whether you are a parent or an educator, you know the importance of having support in your life. Imagine your boss tells you, “Go ahead and give it a shot” and then does everything possible to make your life difficult in accomplishing your goal. Your Boss’s actions did not match his/her words.

When we see schools and parents who provide genuine, strong support, the RESULTS are amazing. Last night, York University’s President spoke briefly before my presentation and then sat in the FRONT ROW with MANY of the Vice Presidents from the university (York is located in Toronto). The significance of the leadership staying for the show sent a strong message to the students of much York cares about this issue. Most Presidents of universities make a quick visit and then leave.

A school with a history of showing their support for this issue is where I am speaking this evening: Gustavus Adolphus College in St. Peter, Minnesota. Every year, we have a “Train the Trainer” session and then go to dinner with the leadership from the campus (heads of departments from various elements of the college – including the President) before presenting the “Can I Kiss You?” presentation. The week of the program, their professors and staff wear the “Can I Kiss You?” shirts for several days. The result is a line of students every year waiting outside the doors of the Ballroom 2 HOURS before the show starts. The campus’s support results in a ROCK CONCERT MENTALITY for addressing safer dating and sexual assault!

In both cases above, people made it a mission to get the top leadership heavily involved. They subtly and creatively engaged top leadership to the point that the leadership WANTED to be affiliated with the mission and the program. What are you doing to engage your leadership in a manner which makes them WANT to strongly support your mission?

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Written by Mike Domitrz on September 9, 2010

Reality Check for All of Us

Before revealing all the strategies for helping your child, we need to start with understanding the culture children are being exposed to at much earlier ages than we were.  Obviously, you are a good parent. By watching these videos, you are here trying to help your child handle a very serious and potentially dangerous topic (95% of parents fail to take this first step).

The good news is you and your child will benefit from your taking the time to gather realistic strategies.  In the below video, you discover WHY we all need the right tools to truly help our children make safer and smarter choices.  The next video will begin to share proven strategies for making a positive impact.

When you finish the video, SHARE with us in the “Speak Your Mind ” section below. I promise to PERSONALLY respond.

~Mike Domitrz
Founder of The Date Safe Project, Inc.

PLAY EYE-OPENING VIDEO #1

IMPORTANT REMINDER: Each of the following videos refers to talking with “Teenagers.” Remember if you are a parent of a child younger than 13 years old, the videos give you a fantastic opportunity to prepare your child at an even younger age.

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Written by The Date Safe Project Inc on April 20, 2010

Talking to Daughter or Son about Dating & Sex (Video)

How do you share openly and honestly about sexual intimacy without giving your child too much information?  Understandably, parents fear giving too much information and thus creating a catalyst for your child to want to engage in sexual activity.

How do you find the right approach without making sex sound bad or too attractive?  Discover in the video below HOW to avoid the conversation going badly. In fact, you will learn an approach for making YOU THE EXPERT. You child will want to turn to you for questions (instead of their peers who can misguide them)!

When you finish the video below, SHARE with us in the “Speak Your Mind ” section below. I promise to PERSONALLY respond to each person.

~Mike Domitrz
Founder of The Date Safe Project, Inc.

ADVANCED STRATEGIES FOR TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD

IMPORTANT REMINDER: Each of the following videos refers to talking with “Teenagers.” Remember if you are a parent of a child younger than 13 years old, the videos give you a fantastic opportunity to prepare your child at an even younger age.

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Written by Mike Domitrz on April 12, 2010

Talking Dating, Sex & More with Your Child (Video)

Would you like to help your sons and daughters make safer choices when dating (whether now and/or in the future)?  As a parent, you know how overly sexualized your child’s world is today.  They face pressures from their peers at much younger ages than we did.  They are exposed to images and ideas on TV, in movies, and on the internet we simply did not see at the same frequency.

The good news is you will discover HOW to connect and talk with your child in the video below.  You already have great knowledge which can be a huge help to your child.  Now, realize how to get your son or daughter to WANT to listen and gain your knowledge.  In the below video, you will find a simple strategy for how your child thinks – without making them feel like you are prying for information.

When you finish the video, SHARE with us in the “Speak Your Mind ” section below. I promise to PERSONALLY respond.

~Mike Domitrz
Founder of The Date Safe Project, Inc.

ADVANCED STRATEGIES FOR TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD

IMPORTANT REMINDER: Each of the following videos refers to talking with “Teenagers.” Remember if you are a parent of a child younger than 13 years old, the videos give you a fantastic opportunity to prepare your child at an even younger age.

CLICK HERE TO WATCH NEXT VIDEO

Please post any comments or questions below in the “Speak Your Mind” section.
I will PERSONALLY respond to each comment you leave on this page!! Lets have fun taking this journey.

Written by Mike Domitrz on April 12, 2010

Do Your Kids Ask? Parents Teaching Respect & Healthy Dating

Below are the 8 most common questions parents ask me when I am speaking in their schools or with their community organizations:

1. Without sounding like you are lecturing and without endorsing sexual activity, how do you approach the issue of healthy dating and intimacy with your child?
Kids are constantly told by their parents how “times were different” and “we were more respectful.” The truth is our culture has had a very unhealthy and confusing approach to dating, intimacy, and sexuality for a very long time – today is no different. Once parents admit the feelings of confusion they had as a young person and discuss their ‘scary’ or ‘troubling’ moments, the teenagers are more likely to connect with their parents. Sharing difficult and scary moments also helps your kids see the dangers and consequences of making bad decisions in a realistic and thought-provoking manner.

Instead of telling your child, “How times were different when you were young,” find a commonality between the two of you. When you tell someone how different it was back when you were young, why should your child think you can understand what they are going through? Connect with your son or daughter by opening the conversation with a question that shows you do understand their worries, concerns, and thoughts.

For example, a parent saying, “I remember getting all nervous before a date because I was wondering lots of stuff like, ‘Will my date like me?’, ‘Will my date find me attractive,’ ‘I wonder what my date is really like.’ Do you ever get nervous like that?” This type of question can make a parent more approachable to their child. No matter what your age is or the “times” you grew up in, these difficult feelings cross all generations. The key to success is asking in a sincere and caring tone.

2. What are the correct dating behaviors and practices to teach?
Self-respect, respect for your partner, and high standards need to be taught to males and females at all times. When a person believes in his or her self, the person is more likely to make the “right” decisions in difficult moments. Students with low self-esteem are more likely to lower their standards to please their partner — a very dangerous and unhealthy practice.

We need to teach young people to “expect to be respected” and to not tolerate any forms of disrespect (a date should ask before trying to do “something with you”). We need to teach how speaking out for yourself is both strong and sexy (many fear speaking out will be unattractive to their dates). We need teach them to better understand what “respecting” a date means. Respect is not simply opening doors, paying for meals, or other signs of chivalry. Respect is holding your date in the highest esteem and always getting your date’s permission before trying to do “something” with your date.

One of the most common mistakes parents make is assuming that the males are always the sexual aggressors. More and more, we are hearing about females becoming the more sexually assertive person in the relationship. Try to avoid all assumptions of gender roles.

3. At what age do my kids begin learning about intimacy?
By observing their parents, children learn intimacy at an extremely young age. If a young man sees his father ask his mother for a kiss, he is more likely to believe that asking is how he should act. If a young woman hears her mother talk about how respectful and loving her father is, the young woman is more likely to want a more respectful and loving partner.

Parents should begin discussing appropriate touching at early school ages and then advance into issues of intimacy as those years approach. Due to the images and discussions the television and the entertainment industry promote to younger audiences, parents need to have these conversations at much younger ages (for many, prior to the age of 10 is appropriate — kids are seeing or hearing about much more explicit behavior by this age). Even if you do not let your children watch such programs, they are likely to hear about these shows from their peers.

There is no one magical age for these conversations to take place. Each set of parents must decide what is right for his or her child. However, the day your child is born is the day your child begins watching you. Make a conscience effort to display respect in all aspects of intimacy and sexuality by asking before kissing people. When your kids watch you, what will they learn?

4. What do I teach my kids about the “Age Laws?”
Parents must teach their child about age laws. Each state has very specific laws regarding minors involved with sexual activity. Two 15 year olds could give each say, “Yes” to engage in certain sexual activity with each other and they would still be breaking the law in many states. In addition, parents need to help young people understand that these laws exist to help “protect” them. Learn the laws in your state so that you can address the legal aspect – just don’t make the legal element your focus. Kids typically find such conversations to be boring and most kids don’t fear the authorities catching them engaged in sexual acts.

5. How can parents help their kids avoid peer pressure?
Immediately begin treating your child with respect and with great value. By teaching a child how “special” he or she is, you can help him or her understand “why” getting involved with intimacy should be saved for an extremely “special” moment. Research proves that the earlier a child gets involved in intimacy is directly related how much “value” the child places in his or her own self. For this reason, we need to connect with our children in an engaging and “open” approach.

Children fear being lectured and being judged. Children love to be “heard.” Ask questions, listen with an open mind, and then have positive discussions. When your child feels a special connection with you and understands “why” you have such strong beliefs, he or she is more likely to believe YOU over his or her friends. Plus, when a child understands the “why” to not getting involved with certain behavior, he or she will have a real reason for saying “no” to peer pressure (instead of simply saying “because my parents said so”). The child will WANT to say “no” because he or she will believe that “no” is the right answer!

6. My son is very respectful — why would I need to worry about him sexually assaulting someone?
Most “respectful” males still learn about aspects of intimacy through their friends and what they see portrayed on television and in the movies. These sources of education promote disrespectful behavior by teaching males that if they are “smooth,” they can just make their moves and their partner will want them. When males just “make their moves,” they take a tremendous risk of engaging in behavior that their partners do not want – thus leading to committing a sexual assault. Parents need to talk with their sons about truly respecting a partner by understanding how valuable and special each person is as a human being (including the body, the mind, sexuality, personality, and values). Sons need to learn that the only way you can be sure what your date wants is to “ask” your date first.

7. My daughter is tough and outspoken — I don’t have anything to worry about, right?
WRONG! Many tough and outspoken females have been sexually assaulted or have become unexpectedly pregnant. A “tough” and “outspoken” female might think she is invincible and that belief can be extremely dangerous (she may believe “she would never get pregnant” or that “no man could ever sexually assault me”). By being over-confident, she may be less likely to see potential signs of trouble. Another female may be very confident in most aspects of her life, but not with intimacy or relationships.

Parents need to teach their daughters “awareness” to better equip their daughters for noticing signs of trouble. At the same time, we must understand that there is no 100% form of sexual assault prevention that a victim or survivor can utilize (100% prevention can only result by the assailant not attempting the behavior). A young woman or man could follow every healthy dating advice ever given and still be sexually assaulted. Stress to your daughter that she cannot ever be at fault for someone sexually assaulting her – this point must be stressed. Many, many females never tell their parents about their assault because the daughter fears how their parents will react. Help your daughter know that you will be there to support her and love her at all times!

8. Do I really need to have these conversations?
Not talking about complex issues simply leads to confusion. When kids talk to their friends, every component is often exaggerated and glamorized (every romantic encounter is amazing and romantic in their “dream world”). Thus, building the young person’s drive to experiment with sex, drugs, and other dangerous behaviors. Help the child learn the truth by speaking honestly about your memories in a manner that they can relate to. If you can be a little humorous, you can help break the barriers down for your teenager to start talking openly to you.”

- written by Mike Domitrz, Executive Director of The Date Safe Project and Producer of HELP! My Teen Is Dating. Realistic Solutions to Tough Conversations. Each year, Mike speaks around the world in over 80 educational and military installations sharing the important messages of respect, consent, bystander intervention and supporting survivors.
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Written by The Date Safe Project Inc on February 9, 2010

Start Helping Your Child Today

 

We need to be blunt here: sexual dangers are monumental for today’s children, especially once they are teenagers. The sooner you begin to prepare your child, the better. What precise plan have you put into place to help your daughter (or son) have the needed skills to handle what she will face (beyond just the “Don’t Do It” talk)? Are you waiting until your child is older? If so, you are likely to be too late. Are you starting to prepare now? Good! You are taking the right approach.

With TV, teen magazines, music, movies, peers sharing at school, sexting, and the Internet promoting sexual activity, your daughters (and sons) are exposed to images making sexual activity look exciting, popular, and appear to be “what everyone is doing.”  The pressure for your son or daughter to be more sexual, including engaging in sexual activity, is stronger than ever. With all the talk of fondling, oral sex, and intercourse among today’s youth, how do you help protect your daughter (and son)?

You will notice the rest of this page refers to “daughter” when referencing a specific gender. Every point we will discuss pertains to BOTH sons and daughters! Referring to one gender makes reading an article easier to follow for everyone.

While some parents like to joke about, “I just won’t let my daughter go out,” that approach is obviously not healthy for a teenager. They need independence and to experience a social life away from Mom and Dad. Of course, that means you can’t be there all the time AND situations can go wrong.  There is no way to guarantee 100% prevention of danger.  What do you do?

You know the old parenting tactics of the past will not work with your teenager. Letting her find out on her own is way too dangerous and scary!  So where do you find CURRENT STRATEGIES for talking to you teen?

Have you tried talking to your teen about dating, sex, and intimacy? Did you get one of the following famous responses from your teen?

  • Rolling of the eyes
  • The look of “You don’t know anything.“
  • “Yea, Yea, Whatever” as they walk away.
  • “I am not talking with YOU about this.“
  • “I’m not doing any of this stuff anyways. You don’t need to worry.“
  • “I get it, okay?“

Did you know most teenagers WANT to talk with their parents about dating, sex, and decision-making?  Yes, you read correctly.  Teenagers would prefer to hear from their parents and be “in the know” than to look naive with their friends.  So why doesn’t your daughter talk to you in detail about sex and/or the sexual feelings she is experiencing?  

No matter how hard you try, you can’t force her to open up with you (after all, you don’t know how much she is really sharing). Finding out HOW TO get the conversation rolling the right way with your daughter is the first step. Do you know the biggest obstacle your teen has about sharing with you?

FEAR of Judgement.  The kind of fear that doesn’t go away by simply saying, “You can say anything to me.”  By utilizing specific approaches which have a proven track record of working with teenagers of all backgrounds and demographics, parents are learning how to overcome this fear factor teenagers possess about talking with Mom and Dad about dating, sex, intimacy, and decision-making.  The key is finding a source who can provide you with proven strategies for getting your teen to talk with you AND who can help insure you say the RIGHT WORDS once your teen is listening.

Mike Domitrz, critically-acclaimed author, expert, and internationally renown speaker, travels the world each year working with students and parents.  As the Executive Director of The Date Safe Project, he is one of the country’s most sought-after speakers for helping parents and their teens discuss respect, boundaries, dating, and sexual decision-making.

Mike’s mission to help you and your family is personal. In 1989, Mike experienced the devastation sexual assault brings to a family when his youngest sister was sexually assaulted.  The pain he saw in his sister, his parents and his entire family was devastating. He has since dedicated his life to helping teenagers and their parents get the necessary tools for building the healthiest foundations.

As a father of 4 children (3 current teenagers), Mike also understands how each day can bring new challenges.  How can Mike help prepare your family more than the hundreds of free websites available filled with statistics and Frequently Asked Questions?

Research shows Mike’s approach with male and female teenagers results in a drastic increase in students changing their beliefs.

While working with school districts throughout the country, students confined in Mike. They are concerned about the overly sexualized world they are experiencing (including their fears: from being “dumped” to being “used” to the tragedy of sexual assault). Before leaving each community, he asks the students what it will take for teenagers to listen to their parents. Knowing this answer can revolutionize a parent’s relationship with their teens.

On the same day he talks with the students, Mike meets with the parents.  Moms & Dads equally share frustration and disappointment in not getting their daughters to take their advice.  Continually, parents stress how different each of their children are and how it seems nothing works at times. Then Mike asks, “What has worked?”  Thus accumulating the most successful strategies parents around the world are using.  Wouldn’t that be interesting information to have?

When you combine the “best strategies” from parents plus what teens state they NEED to engage with their parents (along with Mike’s unique track record of helping teens change their behavior toward dating, parties, sexual activity, and decision-making), you get a whole new approach for helping your daughter be as prepared as possible for protecting herself. Imagine your daughter in the healthiest relationship possible.  What will it take for that picture to become a reality?  Your teenager seeing YOU as the expert can be a big help!

Here is the good news (and exciting too).  You now have an award-winning DVD and book set available which will help your daughter realize what a great source of knowledge you are while giving YOU the tools needed to be that fantastic resource for her!  Imagine having an in-depth conversation about dating and sex with your teenager and then hearing her say, “Thanks for sharing with me. This was actually fun.” Picture your daughter telling you how she set strong standards with her partner right from the beginning of the date.

If your daughter was sexually assaulted, would she tell you? The painful truth is “probably not” because most parents say the wrong words when talking about dating. Statements such as, “If anyone ever touches you, I’ll kill them” results in most teens never coming forward to their parents. EVERY LOVING PARENT wants their daughter to be able to come to them in her greatest time of need.  Mike shares the right words to help your daughter be able to share with you.

You deserve this unique connection with your teenager. You can make it happen starting today.  HELP! My Teen is Dating. Real Solutions to Tough Conversations is an award-wining DVD & Book Set for both parents and teenagers. By sitting down in the comfort of your home, you’ll watch an entertaining, thought-provoking, and life changing DVD (in less time than you’d watch a movie).  Plus, you get 2 critically-acclaimed books.

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10 Essential Tools You’ll Gain Inside HELP! My Teen is Dating:

 

1. How to start the talk and get your teen to listen.
This one method will transform how you talk with your teenager from now on (about anything). Have less stress and more fun together discussing sensitive issues.

“I found myself laughing, answering the questions, and nodding my head in agreement with the audience. We’ve all been told to ‘keep the lines of communication open’ with our sons and daughters, but nobody ever tells us how to do that. As a parent and educator, I guarantee that this video will give you the tools to talk to your teen about feelings and issues you thought were impossible to discuss.”
~ Cheryl Einsweiler, Parent and Community Resources/Educator

2. Three questions that define if your teen should be dating. Choosing a dating age is one of the most common mistakes parents make. When you realize this system for deciding when your teenager is ready to date, you will feel much better about your child being out with someone else. Best of all, your teenager will be safer.

3. What to say to your teen’s date. Many parents do not realize the impact this one conversation has with the date and their own teenager. When you discover the right way to address your teen’s dating partner, you and your child will have a tighter bond (including sharing a few laughs). More importantly, your teen will respect you and be more open with you.

4. The exact words for addressing intimacy. Words are powerful. Each word you choose will impact your teenager’s personal views of their body and sexuality. This one aspect will have the biggest influence on your child’s happiness in future relationships, including marriage.

5. How to establish clear & reasonable boundaries. Your beliefs are going to be a little different than your teenager’s views. If you ask your child, they may say they have the same views because they don’t want to disappoint you. When you understand how to bring out the true differences, you then establish the fundamentals for your teenager speaking out for herself (or himself) with their dates.

“HELP! MY Teen Is Dating is both funny, engaging, and educational. It will help you understand why a rock solid youth will give way to peer pressure. As a parent, I highly recommend it!“
~ John Hathaway, Health Educator & Parent (ID)

6. The power in Asking First. This simple concept is the most popular solution to eliminating the dangerous “dating games” teenagers play. As a parent, you will love this section!

7. The best way to discuss the dangers: from Alcohol to Sexual Assault. As you know, alcohol and drugs (including date rape drugs) are commonly used to rape, especially at parties. In fact, some teenagers brag about how drunk they get their partners before engaging in sexual activity. At the same time, most students do not believe it will happen to them. Every parent needs their child to realize this scare is real and then how to safeguard against it!

8. How to truly “Be There” for your child. Dating is dangerous and it involves great risk. As we discussed earlier, you can’t be with your child at all times. The greatest choice you can make is to give your teen every possible tool to protect herself. What if something still went wrong?  There are no guarantees with a teen’s safety.  What if your child was sexually assaulted? How would you handle it? Do you think your teenager would tell you?

The greatest lesson Mike has learned from traveling the country working with survivors of sexual assault is this one message: “Unless you say the right words to your child BEFORE a sexual assault occurs, odds are slim your child will ever tell you she was assaulted.” Too many parents make the crucial mistake of telling their daughter, “I’ll kill anyone who ever hurts you or touches you against your will.” Teen survivors of date rape state over and over how that one sentence is the #1 reason they never told their parents what happened. Find out what your teenager needs to hear you say! The right message is called “Opening the Door” and you will be emotionally moved when you discover the power in saying it.

9. Necessary skills to get your teenager to make good choices. When you discover how to talk with your teen about dating, the lessons crossover to all areas of life. If you can make a good dating choice, you can handle peer pressure better and stand up for yourself on any issue. Now you have a child who is more confident and wants to do the right thing.

“HELP! My Teen Is Dating provides parents and others with the tools necessary to have conversations with their teenagers as they begin to explore deeper relationships.  The DVD encourages parents and others to demonstrate the care and concern that sometimes gets lost in the everyday routine of life, which in turn, nurtures teens’ self-confidence and the ability to make choices they won’t later regret. Listen, learn, be ready…watch HELP! My Teen Is Dating!“
~ Renée and Charlie Barr, Educators and Parents of two young women

10. Essential tips to fun and safer dating for your son or daughter. Do you know the best time for your teenager to go on a date? Do you know the worst place for a teenager to go? The DVD will uncover lots of surprise tips for dating that you and your teenager probably never thought of.

“Mike does an amazing job guiding parents on how to communicate with their teenagers about dating safely. Help! My Teen is Dating provides real solutions for parents and teaches fundamental respect for all people. A definite ’10′!“
~ Rose J. Torgerson, Sexual Assault Services and Education Coordinator for Cedar Valley Friends of the Family (IA)

PLUS:

Real-life scenes. Throughout the DVD, you get to observe parents and teenagers participating in role-playing scenarios. Seeing real-world examples makes using the information much easier for your family.

In Help! My Teen is Dating, you are given the precise ways to challenge and support your teenager in a manner that is both new, effective, and fun! You will find yourself laughing alongside your teenager; having a better connection with each other; comforted knowing you have a detailed plan for how to handle various situations; and looking forward to having more of these conversations.

Timing. Find out how to start the talk at the right time with the correct approach.  Pick the wrong time and all you get is a very annoyed teenager who feels she (or he) is being forced to listen. The DVD will show you how to pick the right time — resulting in your teenager being better prepared to protect herself.

Includes 4 SPECIAL BONUS sections

  • The Internet and Keeping Your Teen Safe. Get some great insight on how to handle your teen’s use of the online world. You get more control!
  • Spirituality, Faith, & Dating. For families who’s religion is important, you will find this feature a great addition to the DVD. You find out how to incorporate religion appropriately into the discussion.
  • Sexual Choices Our Teens Face. Yes, your teens have more opportunities for sexual experiences than most of your generation did. What is common around the country? What is really going on. Find out here.
  • Access to Special Downloads. In addition to receiving the paperback books, you get e-book versions included on the DVD and several articles to download. Share them with family & friends.

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After watching the DVD, how do you keep the message going?   Teenagers love reading the interactive and insightful book May I Kiss You?  A Candid Look at Dating, Communication, Respect, & Sexual Assault Awareness which is included as part of the set. How often do you hear of an educational book teenagers will ask their parents to purchase for them?  May I Kiss You? is one of those rare finds.  Inside, you’re teenager will discover:

 

  • 20 Interactive Exercises
  • Dating Fear Factors
  • Asking? Are you crazy?
  • Rejection
  • Body Language Challenge
  • Values
  • Respect
  • Long-term Relationships
  • Dating Gender Gap
  • Help & Where to Find It
  • Privacy
  • Blame & Guilt
  • Family & Friends
  • Responsible Change

 

 

  

  • Self-Defense: Yes or No?
  • Awareness
  • Tips for Healthy & Fun Dating
  • Peer Pressure
  • Alcohol & Date Rape Drugs
  • Parties
  • Sexual Harassment
  • Double Standards
  • Talking Freely
  • Supporting Survivors
  • Opening the Door for Survivors
  • The Pledge for Action
  • Making a Difference
  • …and much more

 

 

A frustration parents often express is when teenagers think they are invincible.  For this reason, Moms and Dads appreciate the inspirational book Voices of Courage being included with the DVD for providing their teens real examples of what can happen when tragedy strikes with sexual assault.  Ten female and twelve male survivors share their personal journeys from being assaulted to becoming strong survivors!  You’ll never view sexual assault the same after reading this one-of-a-kind book.  More important, your teenager will have a realistic viewpoint of the dangers that exist in dating.

By utilizing the DVD with both books, you will have all the tools needed to help you and your teenagers engage in powerful and life-changing talks.

“Parenting is challenging at any age but parenting a teen is hardest of all. Mike Domitrz understands the tension between teens and their parents and even more critically, between teens and their peers.

Whether you have boys or girls, you will discover from Mike how to get your teenagers to have high standards, make good choices, and only date partners who give them total respect. Every parent needs to use Mike’s proven approach to making our teens safer on dates!“
~ Linda Hugle, Principal of North Valley High School in Grants Pass, OR

AWARD WINNING DVD & BOOK SET.
Maybe you’re thinking, “What are the odds this is actually going to help me with my teenager?“ The award the DVD has received which means the most to many parents is the ”Best Parenting Book” award by RadicalParenting.com. Why?  Teenagers chose the best books!!  Yes, the books were considered to be the most realistic and helpful for teenagers!!  How often can you find a resource for your teenagers that other teens recommend? Here is what they said when granting the recognition:

“Parents, teens, and tweens love the realistic and flexible solutions given to them in this interactive, entertaining, and useful resource. Regardless of your child’s personality, you will find various options for ways to connect with your son or daughter while helping him/her make better choices.“

Watch an 8 minute preview from the award-winning DVD by clicking here.

PLUS, YOU GET A GREAT DEAL!

Finding a nationally renown expert to help you and your family is difficult and can be extremely expensive (hundreds to thousands of dollars).  With the DVD, you get to bring Mike right into your own home for less than a night out at the movies and dinner for two.  You don’t have to even drive out to your school and drag your teen with you (you know how much she dreads going to Parent-Child educational sessions).  Best of all, you can watch the DVD on any given day in the future to review an idea or concept.  Same with the books. Once you have them, they are yours.  You are getting 2 critically-acclaimed books and an award-winning DVD for only $49.97.  The books normally cost $36.94 by themselves.  Specialized “How To” DVDs typically sell for for $99 to $125 each and you are getting everything for just $49.97.  Plus, shipping is included for FREE.

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EDUCATORS KEEP TALKING . . .

When I received the DVD in the mail, I could not wait to watch it. I had read so many good reviews about the program. I watched the program with my mom and we both enjoyed it. The author and presenter of the program was so intuned with the teen population and what is happening in society now.  My mom was so impressed with the DVD, she is going to recommend it to the PTA at my school.
~Melissa Burmester, bookrusonline.com

Watch an 8 minute preview from the award-winning DVD by clicking here.

As a mother of teens, HELP! My Teen Is Dating has proven to be a powerful tool which allowed me to begin a conversation on a sensitive topic without feeling awkward. After viewing the video with my daughter, I feel she now has the tools and insights to make healthier and safer choices. Plus, Mike Domitrz’s approach has helped remove many of my own fears.

~Laura Stockdale, Community Speakers Forum Coordinator and Parish Episcopal School Board of Trustees (Dallas, TX)

At last, a how-to kit for parents navigating the treacherous territory of teen dating. This DVD will give you the confidence, skills, and information to truly engage your child in a dialogue about the important issues teens face in these relationships.

~ Carolyn Pukl, Health Educator at Lakeland Regional High School (NJ)

Mike Domitrz offers more than practical advice for parents. Throughout, Mike actually demonstrates the tools for talking with your teen about these issues.

~Rob Rephan, Rape Prevention Education Coordinator (CA)

The DVD answers a lot of questions parents have about how far to “get involved,” how to get teenagers to trust parents, and knowing when to trust your child.

~ Nicole Saavedra, Youth Services Coordinator for East Granby (CT)

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Note from Mike Domitrz

Mike Domitrz, leading expert for helping parentsThanks for visiting us here at The Date Safe Project. Helping teenagers make the safest and smartest choices regarding dating, respect, relationships, boundaries, intimacy, sexual activity, and intervening with friends in dangerous situations is a mission we take seriously each and every day.  As the brother of a sexual assault survivor, I’ve seen first hand the trauma sexual violence can cause a family.  No one should have to experience such pain.

We make it our task to help individuals and families lower the incidents of sexual assault while teaching how to build the healthiest relationships through strong dating skills and tools.  For this reason, we worked relentlessly on creating the DVD and book set that would provide you with the most complete and risk-free resource available for parents of teenagers. Thus, you get our 30 day money-back guarantee and free shipping included with your purchase today!

Click Here to Purchase Online or Call Us Toll-Free: 800-329-9390.

 

Written by The Date Safe Project Inc on August 19, 2009

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Written by Mike Domitrz on December 11, 2008

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