Time Alone for Talking with Your Teenage Son

When is the right time to talk with your teenage son or daughter about important issues?

This week, my wife is up North for the entire week with our 8th grade son at Boy Scout Camp. Yes, she is in living in a tent during a heat wave. Unfortunately, tents do not have air conditioning. The rest of us are hanging out together at home.  We have 4 sons of which 3 are teenagers.  Two of the boys are in high school and two are in middle school.

When I’m not on the road speaking, I’m often working out of my home office. This week, I am home after returning from speaking in the Northern most tip of Greenland last week (literally at the Polar Ice Cap). Two of my sons are at a friend’s house today. Thus, one of my sons and I are home with the house just to the two of us.

What do you do? Do you jump on this opportunity to have in-depth conversations? What do you think I did? Each chance I’ve had to take a break away from my work today, I’ve taken that moment to play my son in Ping Pong. Yes, 2 people hitting a little ball back and forth…with many a funny bounce along the way. We both enjoy the game and the competition. We always end up with at least a few laughs. Plus, we appreciate giving each other a hard time in the best of ways.

We will have many more days ahead for those “other” conversations (as we have in the past). The reality is the conversations we are having today by just hanging out and laughing are equally important. They too come from a foundation of love and caring for each other. Here is to taking 5 minute breaks for HAVING FUN with your son or daughter!

Written by Mike Domitrz on July 19, 2011

WRONG 3 words for sexual activity and getting permission

In today’s episode of DSP TV, discover the WRONG 3 words to rely on for obtaining consent in sexual activity.  Many middle school, high school, and college students rely on these 3 words when engaging in sexual intimacy and/or hooking up.  What 3 words are we referring to? Watch the show below AND share your thoughts in our COMMENTS section below.  I will personally respond to each comment.

P.S.  Remember to share your thoughts in our COMMENTS section below and I will promise to respond to each person’s comment.

Written by Mike Domitrz on November 16, 2010

5 Fun Keys to Dating (plus 5 Bonuses)

Do you wish dating wasn’t so hard – or hurtful? Below is a list of ten helpful tips for having dates based upon mutual respect, fun and possibility. The title said, “5” fun keys. I like to surpass your expectations and so you get 10 (wouldn’t dating be more fun if dates surpassed expectations)?

No Dating Games

You constantly hear people talking about being in the “dating game,” yet they fail to realize games pit people against each other. Games aim to have a winner and a loser. Healthy dating requires a mutual success story. Therefore, eliminate all games, tactics and strategies. Simply go out and get to know your date better.

Plan Sunlight Dates

Go out during the day – something new and different! Go on a picnic. Go bowling. Pick an activity that will most likely encourage laughter. It’s much easier to be yourself in the day, than having to be this incredibly “romantic” individual in the evening. Afternoon dating also takes away the pressure of instant intimacy.

No Pity for You

Only date people you truly want to date and can trust. Accepting a date because you feel “sorry” for someone is disrespectful and uncaring. Why? You are being misleading another person and raising someone’s hopes. To turn down a date, say, “Thank you for asking. While I am very honored you asked, I don’t feel a connection between us.”

Stick to the Standards

Before you go on a date with someone new, write down your “dating standards.” For example, you might include on your list: I don’t want to be kissed unless I am asked. Unfortunately, many people make the mistake of lowering their standards in order to “win” over their date. If you are going to lose someone because you are determined to maintain high personal standards, then lose that person! You deserve to be with someone who respects you for being you. Whether the date is going badly or well, stick to your standards.

Only Listen to You

Friends love to tell friends what to do. Sometimes, they encourage risky and dangerous behaviors, or brag about things they really haven’t done in an effort to make themselves sound better. Above all, listen to your instincts.

Ask First and Answer Honestly

Before you even think about becoming intimate on a date, ask if your partner agrees. If your partner asks for intimacy, be honest. You never owe your partner anything you don’t want to share, especially something as precious and sacred as intimate acts of love and/or sexual activity. If you are asked and are not comfortable, say, “That is so cool that you asked. My answer is no because that is not what I want right now.” Be clear.

Remember it Takes Two to Tango

Dating is a partnership based upon mutual respect. Regardless of how different your date’s beliefs might be from yours, remember that he or she is a person. Avoid criticizing, interrupting and dismissing the other person. Hear them out. Talk about your differences. Learn from the exchange. You may just be misunderstanding each other. If you clearly understand your differences and still are not interested in the other person, make it a respectful last date!

Don’t Alter your Judgment

Avoid alcohol and drugs – especially on dates! Any substance that can impair your judgment and decision making can be extremely dangerous. If your partner is trying to pressure you into drinking, take notice! This pressure should be a warning sign of possible disrespect, carelessness, and trouble. You should end this date early!

Listen, Listen, Listen

Be careful about disclosing your entire life history, including previous relationship failures. Ask open ended questions designed to get to know the other person. For example, “Tell me about your greatest travel adventure,” and then listen attentively. Don’t interrupt or start sharing your greatest travel adventure! Everyone likes to be heard.

Talk, Talk, Talk

As you plan a date, involve your partner. Give a few of your ideas and then ask which is most appealing to him or her. By discussing how you will be spending your time together early on, you demonstrate the significance you place on equality in a relationship.

Dating should be fun and leave you feeling better about yourself – not worse. Start putting into practice one or all of the above ten tips for successful dating and you may find yourself meeting wonderful people and having great fun in your new relationships!

Written by Mike Domitrz on August 13, 2010

Reality Check for All of Us

Before revealing all the strategies for helping your child, we need to start with understanding the culture children are being exposed to at much earlier ages than we were.  Obviously, you are a good parent. By watching these videos, you are here trying to help your child handle a very serious and potentially dangerous topic (95% of parents fail to take this first step).

The good news is you and your child will benefit from your taking the time to gather realistic strategies.  In the below video, you discover WHY we all need the right tools to truly help our children make safer and smarter choices.  The next video will begin to share proven strategies for making a positive impact.

When you finish the video, SHARE with us in the “Speak Your Mind ” section below. I promise to PERSONALLY respond.

~Mike Domitrz
Founder of The Date Safe Project, Inc.

PLAY EYE-OPENING VIDEO #1

IMPORTANT REMINDER: Each of the following videos refers to talking with “Teenagers.” Remember if you are a parent of a child younger than 13 years old, the videos give you a fantastic opportunity to prepare your child at an even younger age.

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Please post any comments or questions below in the “Speak Your Mind” section below the comments.
I will PERSONALLY respond to each comment you leave on this page!! Lets have fun taking this journey.

Written by The Date Safe Project Inc on April 20, 2010

Talking to Daughter or Son about Dating & Sex (Video)

How do you share openly and honestly about sexual intimacy without giving your child too much information?  Understandably, parents fear giving too much information and thus creating a catalyst for your child to want to engage in sexual activity.

How do you find the right approach without making sex sound bad or too attractive?  Discover in the video below HOW to avoid the conversation going badly. In fact, you will learn an approach for making YOU THE EXPERT. You child will want to turn to you for questions (instead of their peers who can misguide them)!

When you finish the video below, SHARE with us in the “Speak Your Mind ” section below. I promise to PERSONALLY respond to each person.

~Mike Domitrz
Founder of The Date Safe Project, Inc.

ADVANCED STRATEGIES FOR TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD

IMPORTANT REMINDER: Each of the following videos refers to talking with “Teenagers.” Remember if you are a parent of a child younger than 13 years old, the videos give you a fantastic opportunity to prepare your child at an even younger age.

CLICK HERE TO WATCH NEXT VIDEO

Please post any comments or questions below in the “Speak Your Mind” section.
I will PERSONALLY respond to each comment you leave on this page!! Lets have fun taking this journey.

Written by Mike Domitrz on April 12, 2010

Talking Dating, Sex & More with Your Child (Video)

Would you like to help your sons and daughters make safer choices when dating (whether now and/or in the future)?  As a parent, you know how overly sexualized your child’s world is today.  They face pressures from their peers at much younger ages than we did.  They are exposed to images and ideas on TV, in movies, and on the internet we simply did not see at the same frequency.

The good news is you will discover HOW to connect and talk with your child in the video below.  You already have great knowledge which can be a huge help to your child.  Now, realize how to get your son or daughter to WANT to listen and gain your knowledge.  In the below video, you will find a simple strategy for how your child thinks – without making them feel like you are prying for information.

When you finish the video, SHARE with us in the “Speak Your Mind ” section below. I promise to PERSONALLY respond.

~Mike Domitrz
Founder of The Date Safe Project, Inc.

ADVANCED STRATEGIES FOR TALKING WITH YOUR CHILD

IMPORTANT REMINDER: Each of the following videos refers to talking with “Teenagers.” Remember if you are a parent of a child younger than 13 years old, the videos give you a fantastic opportunity to prepare your child at an even younger age.

CLICK HERE TO WATCH NEXT VIDEO

Please post any comments or questions below in the “Speak Your Mind” section.
I will PERSONALLY respond to each comment you leave on this page!! Lets have fun taking this journey.

Written by Mike Domitrz on April 12, 2010

Start Helping Your Child Today

 

We need to be blunt here: sexual dangers are monumental for today’s children, especially once they are teenagers. The sooner you begin to prepare your child, the better. What precise plan have you put into place to help your daughter (or son) have the needed skills to handle what she will face (beyond just the “Don’t Do It” talk)? Are you waiting until your child is older? If so, you are likely to be too late. Are you starting to prepare now? Good! You are taking the right approach.

With TV, teen magazines, music, movies, peers sharing at school, sexting, and the Internet promoting sexual activity, your daughters (and sons) are exposed to images making sexual activity look exciting, popular, and appear to be “what everyone is doing.”  The pressure for your son or daughter to be more sexual, including engaging in sexual activity, is stronger than ever. With all the talk of fondling, oral sex, and intercourse among today’s youth, how do you help protect your daughter (and son)?

You will notice the rest of this page refers to “daughter” when referencing a specific gender. Every point we will discuss pertains to BOTH sons and daughters! Referring to one gender makes reading an article easier to follow for everyone.

While some parents like to joke about, “I just won’t let my daughter go out,” that approach is obviously not healthy for a teenager. They need independence and to experience a social life away from Mom and Dad. Of course, that means you can’t be there all the time AND situations can go wrong.  There is no way to guarantee 100% prevention of danger.  What do you do?

You know the old parenting tactics of the past will not work with your teenager. Letting her find out on her own is way too dangerous and scary!  So where do you find CURRENT STRATEGIES for talking to you teen?

Have you tried talking to your teen about dating, sex, and intimacy? Did you get one of the following famous responses from your teen?

  • Rolling of the eyes
  • The look of “You don’t know anything.“
  • “Yea, Yea, Whatever” as they walk away.
  • “I am not talking with YOU about this.“
  • “I’m not doing any of this stuff anyways. You don’t need to worry.“
  • “I get it, okay?“

Did you know most teenagers WANT to talk with their parents about dating, sex, and decision-making?  Yes, you read correctly.  Teenagers would prefer to hear from their parents and be “in the know” than to look naive with their friends.  So why doesn’t your daughter talk to you in detail about sex and/or the sexual feelings she is experiencing?  

No matter how hard you try, you can’t force her to open up with you (after all, you don’t know how much she is really sharing). Finding out HOW TO get the conversation rolling the right way with your daughter is the first step. Do you know the biggest obstacle your teen has about sharing with you?

FEAR of Judgement.  The kind of fear that doesn’t go away by simply saying, “You can say anything to me.”  By utilizing specific approaches which have a proven track record of working with teenagers of all backgrounds and demographics, parents are learning how to overcome this fear factor teenagers possess about talking with Mom and Dad about dating, sex, intimacy, and decision-making.  The key is finding a source who can provide you with proven strategies for getting your teen to talk with you AND who can help insure you say the RIGHT WORDS once your teen is listening.

Mike Domitrz, critically-acclaimed author, expert, and internationally renown speaker, travels the world each year working with students and parents.  As the Executive Director of The Date Safe Project, he is one of the country’s most sought-after speakers for helping parents and their teens discuss respect, boundaries, dating, and sexual decision-making.

Mike’s mission to help you and your family is personal. In 1989, Mike experienced the devastation sexual assault brings to a family when his youngest sister was sexually assaulted.  The pain he saw in his sister, his parents and his entire family was devastating. He has since dedicated his life to helping teenagers and their parents get the necessary tools for building the healthiest foundations.

As a father of 4 children (3 current teenagers), Mike also understands how each day can bring new challenges.  How can Mike help prepare your family more than the hundreds of free websites available filled with statistics and Frequently Asked Questions?

Research shows Mike’s approach with male and female teenagers results in a drastic increase in students changing their beliefs.

While working with school districts throughout the country, students confined in Mike. They are concerned about the overly sexualized world they are experiencing (including their fears: from being “dumped” to being “used” to the tragedy of sexual assault). Before leaving each community, he asks the students what it will take for teenagers to listen to their parents. Knowing this answer can revolutionize a parent’s relationship with their teens.

On the same day he talks with the students, Mike meets with the parents.  Moms & Dads equally share frustration and disappointment in not getting their daughters to take their advice.  Continually, parents stress how different each of their children are and how it seems nothing works at times. Then Mike asks, “What has worked?”  Thus accumulating the most successful strategies parents around the world are using.  Wouldn’t that be interesting information to have?

When you combine the “best strategies” from parents plus what teens state they NEED to engage with their parents (along with Mike’s unique track record of helping teens change their behavior toward dating, parties, sexual activity, and decision-making), you get a whole new approach for helping your daughter be as prepared as possible for protecting herself. Imagine your daughter in the healthiest relationship possible.  What will it take for that picture to become a reality?  Your teenager seeing YOU as the expert can be a big help!

Here is the good news (and exciting too).  You now have an award-winning DVD and book set available which will help your daughter realize what a great source of knowledge you are while giving YOU the tools needed to be that fantastic resource for her!  Imagine having an in-depth conversation about dating and sex with your teenager and then hearing her say, “Thanks for sharing with me. This was actually fun.” Picture your daughter telling you how she set strong standards with her partner right from the beginning of the date.

If your daughter was sexually assaulted, would she tell you? The painful truth is “probably not” because most parents say the wrong words when talking about dating. Statements such as, “If anyone ever touches you, I’ll kill them” results in most teens never coming forward to their parents. EVERY LOVING PARENT wants their daughter to be able to come to them in her greatest time of need.  Mike shares the right words to help your daughter be able to share with you.

You deserve this unique connection with your teenager. You can make it happen starting today.  HELP! My Teen is Dating. Real Solutions to Tough Conversations is an award-wining DVD & Book Set for both parents and teenagers. By sitting down in the comfort of your home, you’ll watch an entertaining, thought-provoking, and life changing DVD (in less time than you’d watch a movie).  Plus, you get 2 critically-acclaimed books.

Begin to Open the Door for your Teen Daughter. Get the DVD & Book Set Now!

 

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10 Essential Tools You’ll Gain Inside HELP! My Teen is Dating:

 

1. How to start the talk and get your teen to listen.
This one method will transform how you talk with your teenager from now on (about anything). Have less stress and more fun together discussing sensitive issues.

“I found myself laughing, answering the questions, and nodding my head in agreement with the audience. We’ve all been told to ‘keep the lines of communication open’ with our sons and daughters, but nobody ever tells us how to do that. As a parent and educator, I guarantee that this video will give you the tools to talk to your teen about feelings and issues you thought were impossible to discuss.”
~ Cheryl Einsweiler, Parent and Community Resources/Educator

2. Three questions that define if your teen should be dating. Choosing a dating age is one of the most common mistakes parents make. When you realize this system for deciding when your teenager is ready to date, you will feel much better about your child being out with someone else. Best of all, your teenager will be safer.

3. What to say to your teen’s date. Many parents do not realize the impact this one conversation has with the date and their own teenager. When you discover the right way to address your teen’s dating partner, you and your child will have a tighter bond (including sharing a few laughs). More importantly, your teen will respect you and be more open with you.

4. The exact words for addressing intimacy. Words are powerful. Each word you choose will impact your teenager’s personal views of their body and sexuality. This one aspect will have the biggest influence on your child’s happiness in future relationships, including marriage.

5. How to establish clear & reasonable boundaries. Your beliefs are going to be a little different than your teenager’s views. If you ask your child, they may say they have the same views because they don’t want to disappoint you. When you understand how to bring out the true differences, you then establish the fundamentals for your teenager speaking out for herself (or himself) with their dates.

“HELP! MY Teen Is Dating is both funny, engaging, and educational. It will help you understand why a rock solid youth will give way to peer pressure. As a parent, I highly recommend it!“
~ John Hathaway, Health Educator & Parent (ID)

6. The power in Asking First. This simple concept is the most popular solution to eliminating the dangerous “dating games” teenagers play. As a parent, you will love this section!

7. The best way to discuss the dangers: from Alcohol to Sexual Assault. As you know, alcohol and drugs (including date rape drugs) are commonly used to rape, especially at parties. In fact, some teenagers brag about how drunk they get their partners before engaging in sexual activity. At the same time, most students do not believe it will happen to them. Every parent needs their child to realize this scare is real and then how to safeguard against it!

8. How to truly “Be There” for your child. Dating is dangerous and it involves great risk. As we discussed earlier, you can’t be with your child at all times. The greatest choice you can make is to give your teen every possible tool to protect herself. What if something still went wrong?  There are no guarantees with a teen’s safety.  What if your child was sexually assaulted? How would you handle it? Do you think your teenager would tell you?

The greatest lesson Mike has learned from traveling the country working with survivors of sexual assault is this one message: “Unless you say the right words to your child BEFORE a sexual assault occurs, odds are slim your child will ever tell you she was assaulted.” Too many parents make the crucial mistake of telling their daughter, “I’ll kill anyone who ever hurts you or touches you against your will.” Teen survivors of date rape state over and over how that one sentence is the #1 reason they never told their parents what happened. Find out what your teenager needs to hear you say! The right message is called “Opening the Door” and you will be emotionally moved when you discover the power in saying it.

9. Necessary skills to get your teenager to make good choices. When you discover how to talk with your teen about dating, the lessons crossover to all areas of life. If you can make a good dating choice, you can handle peer pressure better and stand up for yourself on any issue. Now you have a child who is more confident and wants to do the right thing.

“HELP! My Teen Is Dating provides parents and others with the tools necessary to have conversations with their teenagers as they begin to explore deeper relationships.  The DVD encourages parents and others to demonstrate the care and concern that sometimes gets lost in the everyday routine of life, which in turn, nurtures teens’ self-confidence and the ability to make choices they won’t later regret. Listen, learn, be ready…watch HELP! My Teen Is Dating!“
~ Renée and Charlie Barr, Educators and Parents of two young women

10. Essential tips to fun and safer dating for your son or daughter. Do you know the best time for your teenager to go on a date? Do you know the worst place for a teenager to go? The DVD will uncover lots of surprise tips for dating that you and your teenager probably never thought of.

“Mike does an amazing job guiding parents on how to communicate with their teenagers about dating safely. Help! My Teen is Dating provides real solutions for parents and teaches fundamental respect for all people. A definite ’10′!“
~ Rose J. Torgerson, Sexual Assault Services and Education Coordinator for Cedar Valley Friends of the Family (IA)

PLUS:

Real-life scenes. Throughout the DVD, you get to observe parents and teenagers participating in role-playing scenarios. Seeing real-world examples makes using the information much easier for your family.

In Help! My Teen is Dating, you are given the precise ways to challenge and support your teenager in a manner that is both new, effective, and fun! You will find yourself laughing alongside your teenager; having a better connection with each other; comforted knowing you have a detailed plan for how to handle various situations; and looking forward to having more of these conversations.

Timing. Find out how to start the talk at the right time with the correct approach.  Pick the wrong time and all you get is a very annoyed teenager who feels she (or he) is being forced to listen. The DVD will show you how to pick the right time — resulting in your teenager being better prepared to protect herself.

Includes 4 SPECIAL BONUS sections

  • The Internet and Keeping Your Teen Safe. Get some great insight on how to handle your teen’s use of the online world. You get more control!
  • Spirituality, Faith, & Dating. For families who’s religion is important, you will find this feature a great addition to the DVD. You find out how to incorporate religion appropriately into the discussion.
  • Sexual Choices Our Teens Face. Yes, your teens have more opportunities for sexual experiences than most of your generation did. What is common around the country? What is really going on. Find out here.
  • Access to Special Downloads. In addition to receiving the paperback books, you get e-book versions included on the DVD and several articles to download. Share them with family & friends.

Don’t Hesitate. Get the DVD & Book Set. Start the Conversation Now!

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After watching the DVD, how do you keep the message going?   Teenagers love reading the interactive and insightful book May I Kiss You?  A Candid Look at Dating, Communication, Respect, & Sexual Assault Awareness which is included as part of the set. How often do you hear of an educational book teenagers will ask their parents to purchase for them?  May I Kiss You? is one of those rare finds.  Inside, you’re teenager will discover:

 

  • 20 Interactive Exercises
  • Dating Fear Factors
  • Asking? Are you crazy?
  • Rejection
  • Body Language Challenge
  • Values
  • Respect
  • Long-term Relationships
  • Dating Gender Gap
  • Help & Where to Find It
  • Privacy
  • Blame & Guilt
  • Family & Friends
  • Responsible Change

 

 

  

  • Self-Defense: Yes or No?
  • Awareness
  • Tips for Healthy & Fun Dating
  • Peer Pressure
  • Alcohol & Date Rape Drugs
  • Parties
  • Sexual Harassment
  • Double Standards
  • Talking Freely
  • Supporting Survivors
  • Opening the Door for Survivors
  • The Pledge for Action
  • Making a Difference
  • …and much more

 

 

A frustration parents often express is when teenagers think they are invincible.  For this reason, Moms and Dads appreciate the inspirational book Voices of Courage being included with the DVD for providing their teens real examples of what can happen when tragedy strikes with sexual assault.  Ten female and twelve male survivors share their personal journeys from being assaulted to becoming strong survivors!  You’ll never view sexual assault the same after reading this one-of-a-kind book.  More important, your teenager will have a realistic viewpoint of the dangers that exist in dating.

By utilizing the DVD with both books, you will have all the tools needed to help you and your teenagers engage in powerful and life-changing talks.

“Parenting is challenging at any age but parenting a teen is hardest of all. Mike Domitrz understands the tension between teens and their parents and even more critically, between teens and their peers.

Whether you have boys or girls, you will discover from Mike how to get your teenagers to have high standards, make good choices, and only date partners who give them total respect. Every parent needs to use Mike’s proven approach to making our teens safer on dates!“
~ Linda Hugle, Principal of North Valley High School in Grants Pass, OR

AWARD WINNING DVD & BOOK SET.
Maybe you’re thinking, “What are the odds this is actually going to help me with my teenager?“ The award the DVD has received which means the most to many parents is the ”Best Parenting Book” award by RadicalParenting.com. Why?  Teenagers chose the best books!!  Yes, the books were considered to be the most realistic and helpful for teenagers!!  How often can you find a resource for your teenagers that other teens recommend? Here is what they said when granting the recognition:

“Parents, teens, and tweens love the realistic and flexible solutions given to them in this interactive, entertaining, and useful resource. Regardless of your child’s personality, you will find various options for ways to connect with your son or daughter while helping him/her make better choices.“

Watch an 8 minute preview from the award-winning DVD by clicking here.

PLUS, YOU GET A GREAT DEAL!

Finding a nationally renown expert to help you and your family is difficult and can be extremely expensive (hundreds to thousands of dollars).  With the DVD, you get to bring Mike right into your own home for less than a night out at the movies and dinner for two.  You don’t have to even drive out to your school and drag your teen with you (you know how much she dreads going to Parent-Child educational sessions).  Best of all, you can watch the DVD on any given day in the future to review an idea or concept.  Same with the books. Once you have them, they are yours.  You are getting 2 critically-acclaimed books and an award-winning DVD for only $49.97.  The books normally cost $36.94 by themselves.  Specialized “How To” DVDs typically sell for for $99 to $125 each and you are getting everything for just $49.97.  Plus, shipping is included for FREE.

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EDUCATORS KEEP TALKING . . .

When I received the DVD in the mail, I could not wait to watch it. I had read so many good reviews about the program. I watched the program with my mom and we both enjoyed it. The author and presenter of the program was so intuned with the teen population and what is happening in society now.  My mom was so impressed with the DVD, she is going to recommend it to the PTA at my school.
~Melissa Burmester, bookrusonline.com

Watch an 8 minute preview from the award-winning DVD by clicking here.

As a mother of teens, HELP! My Teen Is Dating has proven to be a powerful tool which allowed me to begin a conversation on a sensitive topic without feeling awkward. After viewing the video with my daughter, I feel she now has the tools and insights to make healthier and safer choices. Plus, Mike Domitrz’s approach has helped remove many of my own fears.

~Laura Stockdale, Community Speakers Forum Coordinator and Parish Episcopal School Board of Trustees (Dallas, TX)

At last, a how-to kit for parents navigating the treacherous territory of teen dating. This DVD will give you the confidence, skills, and information to truly engage your child in a dialogue about the important issues teens face in these relationships.

~ Carolyn Pukl, Health Educator at Lakeland Regional High School (NJ)

Mike Domitrz offers more than practical advice for parents. Throughout, Mike actually demonstrates the tools for talking with your teen about these issues.

~Rob Rephan, Rape Prevention Education Coordinator (CA)

The DVD answers a lot of questions parents have about how far to “get involved,” how to get teenagers to trust parents, and knowing when to trust your child.

~ Nicole Saavedra, Youth Services Coordinator for East Granby (CT)

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Note from Mike Domitrz

Mike Domitrz, leading expert for helping parentsThanks for visiting us here at The Date Safe Project. Helping teenagers make the safest and smartest choices regarding dating, respect, relationships, boundaries, intimacy, sexual activity, and intervening with friends in dangerous situations is a mission we take seriously each and every day.  As the brother of a sexual assault survivor, I’ve seen first hand the trauma sexual violence can cause a family.  No one should have to experience such pain.

We make it our task to help individuals and families lower the incidents of sexual assault while teaching how to build the healthiest relationships through strong dating skills and tools.  For this reason, we worked relentlessly on creating the DVD and book set that would provide you with the most complete and risk-free resource available for parents of teenagers. Thus, you get our 30 day money-back guarantee and free shipping included with your purchase today!

Click Here to Purchase Online or Call Us Toll-Free: 800-329-9390.

 

Written by The Date Safe Project Inc on August 19, 2009

Mike talking to parents

Check out this video:

Written by Mike Domitrz on December 11, 2008

Parents, use this YouTube video to discuss parties, friends hanging out, and the real dangers of sexual assault among teenagers and college students.

Claire Kaplan, the Director of Sexual & Domestic Violence Services at the University of Virginia, shared a very powerful YouTube video earlier today.  Ask yourself how you can utilize this video with your teenager or college student? 

After watching the YouTube video, many parents will make the mistake of immediately talking about what SHE could have done differently to protect herself.  When you show this sexual assault awareness video to your child, focus on what HE did wrong.  Talk openly and directly about what respect and choices should mean to both males and females.  Discuss how quickly he turned to his physical strengh to overpower her and engage in violence against her.  Then, discuss how this situation could have been handled the proper way by him "asking her first."  If she said, "No", he would completely respect her wishes.  If she said, "Yes", he would only engage in the behavior she agreed to (while at the same time, respecting her right to change her mind).

This video is particularly powerful because of how realistic and true the film is for students.

After watching the video, what questions would you ask your teenager or college student?  Share your thoughts by leaving a COMMENT on this posting.

Written by Mike Domitrz on January 8, 2008

Parents, Give Your Teenager Freedom from YOU

After coaching my son’s basketball game today, he wanted to ride home with my wife.  We had drove separately to the game and he was not in a good mood after this big loss.  My wife and I decided to have him drive home with me so that he and I could talk.  Plus, if he was mad with me, we could solve it during the ride. 

Since he didn’t want to talk and he didn’t want to ride with me, what was I going to accomplish by "making him ride with me" other than showing him I could MAKE do it?  After all, he is 12 years old and appreciates a little space.  Within 30 seconds of driving, I pulled over and let him go home with my wife.  Why?  He deserves to have his wishes respected, especially a request that was of no harm to anyone.

If my EGO couldn’t take him not wanting to be with me at the time, the problem was my EGO (not him).  He drove home with my wife.  After we had been home for a little while, I came into the Family Room where he was watching the NFL playoffs.  Since he was relaxed, I chose this time to talk.  His time.  Our conversation was very productive and ended with smiles.

Today’s moments reminded me of one of the Golden Rules we share in the Help! My Teen is Dating DVD and Book Set: talk on your child’s time.  Show him/her respect and your child is much more likely to show some back.  While showing patience as a parent is not always easy, the rewards are worth the wait!

Written by Mike Domitrz on January 6, 2008

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