Four words that can be life-changing.
“Can I Kiss You?” is one of the most sought-after school assemblies for creating a safe, age appropriate look at consent, respect in relationships, boundaries, bystander intervention, and working to reduce sexual assault in your community. Each year, the program is delivered hundreds of times to over tens of thousands of audience members.
Inclusive for all genders and sexual orientations.
In a 45 to 60 minute “Can I Kiss You?” program, middle school and high school students discover specific how-to skills for:
- Determining the right age to date and who is right for them to date
- Distinguishing healthy emotional and physical boundaries for relationships
- Requiring verbal consent before sexual intimacy
- Intervening when friends “Hook Up” under the influence of alcohol or drugs.
- Supporting survivors of sexual assault (including going to local crisis center).
While most school presentations try to solely raise a teen’s awareness, “Can I Kiss You?” is focused on getting preteens and teens to take personal responsibility and to make positive, healthy choices for themselves and their peers.
Feedback from Middle School & High School Educators & Parents
You did a great job imparting lessons and strategies for the kids to take with them. I was apprehensive at first because I saw the clip online and didn’t know if you would gear your discussion to middle schoolers, but I shouldn’t have worried. Your language and examples were right on target for our age group. They were riveted in their seats when you talked about your sister. They asked good questions and were genuinely interested because of your active, engaging style. . I was particularly touched when you talked about girls paying their own way. This empowers young women and gives them back a semblance of control. Our generation was not taught that concept.
– Yvonne McGilvary, Teacher St. Charles School Burlington (WI)
We thought your presentation was great, your rapport with the kids was terrific and the subject matter was right on target. The way we gauge if something is a success is if the kids are still talking about it a few days later. Needless to say, we heard tons of positive feedback from the students (and the PE /Health teachers too). I have already recommended you to the other School Based Youth Services Programs in New Jersey at the annual director’s retreat last week. Thanks for helping us make our Wellness Week a great success!
– Suzanne Sarner, Counselor Sussex County Technical High School (NJ)
After his performance, the students talked for days about it, and many students sought the counsel of faculty and friends to talk about issues his comments raised. I sincerely recommend Mike to any school looking for a fun and fresh way to educate their students about dating and relationship dynamics, sexual assault, and open minds.”
– Hilary Cruz-Abrams, Health Program Coordinator, The Kent School (Boarding School in CT)
After your presentation in March of this year, our 13 year old daughter (who deals with GAD and ADD in addition to being a teenager) reported an incident that she had been hiding from us for nearly a year. A 14 year old boy had used coercion to force her into a 2 second ‘experiment’ with the threat that he would tell everyone she was a slut and did ________ anyway. She held this inside from early July until a few days after your presentation, when she filed a report with the school counselor.
Needless to say, there were multiple incidents during the time she held the information in: he told everyone lies about her anyway, created an enormous amount of turmoil and so forth, resulting in GAD accelerating into RX treated depression. While the results of her disclosure required involvement of the police and child welfare, which frightened us all, including her parents – she has rebounded phenomenally well. The perp has been transferred, I hope to an all boys’ school. Her remark to us after we met with the child welfare people – ‘I know you hate me now.’ With that thought in her mind, she still had the courage to go on record and to seek help that your program recommends. Of course we let her know that Hate ain’t in the picture. Thank you for your excellent program. Thanks again!
– Anonymous Parents of 13 year old daughter